Post # 1
Okay, I need some sisterly (i.e. not necessarily asking for doctorly) advice – just your own experiences. I’m a virgin and have never used any form of contraception before. I’ll be quitting my job and moving to the States to get married, and my insurance will cut off the end of July. I’ll be in my hometown (parents’ state) for one week of July, and in DC where J lives the rest of the month. After July, it’s a crap shoot of what kind of job I’ll get, and thus whether I’ll have insurance until we get married in October (and then I’ll be added to his benefits – I’m rarely ill and not too bugged about being off insurance for just 2 months).OKAY question at hand is… when do you think I should start birth control?
It’s been ten years since I’ve lived in my hometown, and I’ve never lived in DC, so I don’t have a doctor either place, but will need an exam too – should I do it with someone my mom (a nurse) can refer me to in Michigan, or find a real doctor in DC (where we’ll be living for a few years to come)?
sorry – off track, my real question is how early I should start taking birth control? – I know most pills can take up to ten days to be effective, etc., but I’m feeling like I might want to start it earlier than 2 weeks before the wedding – was it hard to adjust to taking it/being on it? Did you have many side effects when you started?
We’re not wanting kids for at least 5 years, so I’m not really looking for the “use condoms for a few months and then start trying” method 😉 (that’s the advice one friend gave when I mentioned bc).
(ETA: Sorry this is so ramble-y… I guess I’m a little uncomfortable asking, which is silly, because I’m NEVER uncomfortable talking about anything on WB!)
(2nd ETA: We’re not going to have sex until the honeymoon. uh, in case that wasn’t assumed.)
Post # 3
I would start 3 months out just to be careful and to make sure you are used to taking the pills. You can always go to Planned Parenthood if you don’t have insurance and they will provide it for little money.
Post # 4
It takes about a month for the pill to be fully effective. My concern is the fact that you will be starting and then stopping the pill for two months, I think that is what you are trying to say. This probably won’t be the best thing for your body to start and stop hormones. You should at least a month before the wedding, but if you don’t have insurance until you get married then you should prob use condoms until you get insurance and have been on the pill for a month.
Post # 5
I voted for 3 months out too. Getting bc is not really a big deal that you need to establish a relationship with a doc for. You can easily make one appointment, get a quick check-up and get your pills (or go to PP). I say 3 months because *some* people have bad side effects with various different kinds of bc and it really is just a person by person thing. I love ortho tri cyclen (the original!) and I know a lot of people really don’t like it. A lot of people love yaz but it made me so sick. You’ll know within a month or two if you like or don’t like something… so starting 3 months out will give you time to see if you like the first thing they put you on and then switch if necessary.
Post # 6
Definitely start as early as you can. Then you’ll be all used to it before the wedding/honeymoon.
Also, I agree with others, you can go to PP if you don’t have insurance.
Post # 7
I would start BC at least two or three months out. My main reason is that you don’t know how your body will react. I needed to find the right pill for me. One made my period far too heavy, another one gave me yeast infections…etc…
Also, if you go to the doctor now, ask them for samples to get you through the time you have no insurance.
Post # 8
I think 2-3 months would be perfect. Also, you might want to ask for a low hormone Pill, just because those are least likely to cause unwanted side effects. If you’re miserable on the Pill your doctor gives you, don’t be afraid to ask for a different prescription. Oh, and I’m not sure if they do this in China, but when I first went on the Pill, they gave me about 6 months worth of free samples. I ended up calling them and asking if they had any extras, and got a year’s worth of birth control free. Now, I’m paying dearly for it, but such is life. The generic just was not the same with my body.
PS: I hope you love it like I do! Not having cramps or the moodiness that used to come with my periods is a dream. I literally fear going off the Pill!
Post # 9
I agree with Corgi about the side effects. Better to find out before the wedding then when you feel sick on the honeymoon!
Post # 10
dude planned parenthood is CHEAPO! Once i went and it was like $18 for an exam+BC or something. I think i went cuz my regular bc was hella expensive and since i was in college, it was cheaper
You should definitely start as early as possible. It may take awhile to get the right BC for you. And for me, it seems like it takes a few months for my body to “settle in” on the birth control.
Also–talk to your OBGYN’s office if you go see one. Sometimes you can get samples!!!! The nurses at mine were so nice and when I said “man i’ts $100 for 3 month’s worth of SEasonique!” (which i realize isn’t much over 3 months) they said “oh let us know and we’ll give you a sample of it”. A sample pack is a full box of 3 months. Once, i was super tight on money before the wedding, I swung by on a Friday and asked for a sample and they gave it to me. If you explain your situation, they may give it to you up front. Our school student health center would give out 6 months worth of birth control at a time to the students.
Post # 11
will the doctor be able to recommend a brand or something? I know literally next to nothing about birth control, except that you’re supposed to take the pills at the same time every day, and there are some that are sugar (?) and those are for when you get your ‘period’. I put period in quotes because I’ve heard it’s not biologically the same as ‘real’ menstruation. Not even sure if that’s right…
I feel like I’m thirteen years old in the school nurse’s office! gees!
And yeah, insurance or no, I’ll be taking it once I start.
does PP offer different types or just one? (in case whatever I’m on isn’t a good match)
Post # 12
I agree with the PP’s. 3 months out at least- you’ll find that you’ll experince not only physical but emotional changes too… not something you want to be dealing with so near to the big day. And don’t get discouraged with not having insurance- I don’t have any either and my BCP have been $9/month from wal-mart/target for as long as I can remember. Not a bank breaker by any means. (If it helps i’m on the generic Ortho Tri-Cyclen).
Post # 13
I would say start as early as you can, that way you can tweek it a bit if your period falls over your wedding day. Plus it gives you time to adjust to the side effects (including any emotional ones, you’re moving and getting married very close together, you don’t need something else making you crazy on top of all that!) If you’re worried about not having insurance, there are plenty of places where you can get an exam for little to no money. Also, there are a lot of generic brands which qualify for discount programs and such- check out the websites for places like walmart, cvs, etc. to see what brands you could maybe ask your Dr. about.
Post # 14
Yes, PP should offer more than one kind. (I believe.) Your doctor should know what would be right for you. Mine started me on LoEstrin 24 because it does have a low dose of hormones. I’m quite petite and the hormones in a regular pill hit me HARD. Like, made me nauseated, etc, but I have no negative side effects whatsoever with LoEstrin.
Also, the placebo pills are different depending on the specific brand. Some have very low doses of hormones, some are sugar, some are iron, etc.
Post # 15
@DDW: The doctors will put you on a brand that they think is right. When I first started, I had no idea about brands either. You are right about the pills and the period you get on the pill isn’t a real period. PP offers different ones but they might not have brand new forms that are more expensive.
Post # 16
I can’t/won’t go until I’m back in the States (first of July) – I have no idea what would even be available here, and certainly don’t have that specific set of language skills! Plus I’d rather wait for a trusted doctor, and my current insurance doesn’t cover bc, I don’t think.
They do cover check up visits, can a regular doctor prescribe bc? like, during my regular check up?
Gees. Maybe I’ll be covered by the new health care reform…? 😉