Post # 1
Did you start charting as soon as you started TTC or did you just let it be for the first couple of months and then start charting when you weren’t getting pregnant?
I am just wondering if we should start charting and using ovulation tools as soon as we start TTC or should we wait a couple month to see what happens and then if wearen’t pregnant we could start charting, using fertility monitors etc.? I really want a baby but at the same time I don’t want to add so much stress to the process.
Post # 3
I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer for this. Whatever you and your significant other are comfortable with.
For us, we opted to just let it be for the first couple months and see where it takes us.
We’re having fun while still being aware when I’m ovulating. 😉
We’ll be going into our third cycle this month. Internally I’m thinking if at 5/6 months I’m still not pregnant I might start bringing out the big guns. 😀
Post # 4
@roxy821: I started charting last month, when we actually really began trying. However, I also had been wondering if I was even ovulating. I’ve even begun using google calendar under my email account.
This does NOT mean we aren’t enjoying ourselves throughout the month, regardless. It just means we make sure we have fun on the days I get a positive OPT. I’ve also begun taking vitex and he’s taking vitamins to help, too.
The key is even if you DO chart, to not make it the end-all-be-all part of it. Have fun, enjoy yourselves, and don’t center your hopes and dreams around the test.
Oh, and once you know when you’re supposed to ovulate, you can start planning ‘get aways’ to add to the romance and relaxation of it. That’s what we’re doing this month and next if I don’t conceive this month. 🙂
edited to add: oh, yeah, forgot to mention I also visited the dr and we were told since I didn’t have problems with either of my other two kids, to come back in 6 months if nothing happens. plus, I also having a miscarriage last June/August that I didn’t even know about. (No test came up positive, so how was I supposed to know it was a miscarriage?!?)
Post # 5
We pulled the goalie after our earlyish October wedding, and I started charting in January. It was actually much less stressful to me to be able to see what my body was doing, and know we were having sex at the right times, rather than letting it just be a stab in the dark. I also use OPKs.
Post # 6
I think it just depends on your personality. For us I didn’t want to become too focused on getting pregnant or buy anything unnecessary so we just went with the old have sex method and since we usually do it everyday I wasn’t worried about not having sex during fertile times. It worked the first month.
Post # 7
I appreciate you guys sharing, thanks so much!
@FutureMrsMcK- I think I’m more like you, I need to feel in control 🙂
@troubled- That’s awesome that it happened in the first month!
Post # 8
I started using one of those “charting” apps on my ipod. I did it as soon as we were TTC and I got pregnant the very 1st month.
For me…I was 31 and I didn’t want to “take my time”, so I started charting from day 1.
Post # 9
I started with just a calendar charting the first month the second month I did calendar, OPK & CM checks. This month I am doing calendar, OPK, CM checks and bmt.
Post # 10
Like MrsMcK, I found it less stressful to know what was going on with my body than to not. I started BBT charting right away, and got better at charting other signs and usings opks over time. For me, I wanted confirmation that I was indeed ovulating since I have a sis with PCOS. And now that it’s been a year without success, I’m glad I have that year of charts to take with me to dr appointments (not that I wish that aspect on anyone!)
And like Ryna said, just because you use tools doesn’t mean you can’t have an enjoyable sex life anytime of the month 🙂
Post # 11
Whatever you feel the most comfortable with doing. Right now, I’m in month 2 of ttc, and I’m only keeping track of my AF which is huge for me! I used to just forget about it until it reared its ugly red head at the most inopportune time. I’m also paying attention to CM just to note ovulation. We wanted a casual approach to this, but I think after a few months without success, we’ll step up our game plan and I’ll probably get some OPKs and flirt with the idea of doing temperature charting. I’m hoping that won’t be the case though!
Post # 12
I would try a few months with no stress, no charting just a good old time. After a few months if nothings happening than maybe try charting. I hear allot of women that do it’s an added stress and makes ttc harder and when they give up and just have sex for fun again it happens.
Post # 13
i echo pp’s that it’s really just your preference, there is no right or wrong way to go about it. we just stopped using birth control, and after 5 months of not understanding why i hadn’t gotten pregnant without really trying, i started charting my bbt and checking cm. i got pregnant on the second month of trying 🙂 looking back, charting sooner would have saved me a lot of hpt’s and confusion, so it just depends on how eager you are to get things moving.
Post # 14
I would do what was most comforatble for you. For me, i started reading all about TTC and I bought taking charge of your fertility like many had suggested on the bee and then began charting to avoid immediately after stopping birth control and charted for about 5 months before TTC. I really got into the charting (CM, BBT, Cervical Position etc), and it was so interesting to me. I did use opk to back up my charting and “learn” my cycle. I would say it was helpful, and once i was pregnant i was able to pinpoint the date of conception etc for my doctor/due date etc.
Post # 15
I came off the Pill in February and so far the plan is to just have fun for a few months and see what happens. The way I figure, it could take a little while for my body to regulate itself again so I don’t want to stress too much until I get on a regular cycle.
If nothing happens after June then we’ll step it up and really start “trying”.
For me personally I’m a little freaked out about not being able to conceive so I’m trying not to worry myself or think about it too much.
Post # 16
@octobermom: knowing WHEN I ovulated is part of the reason I’m using the opk’s. I’ve had it with trying to argue the dr’s about when I concieved. They tend to listen more if you say you were charting then if you weren’t.