(Closed) Starting IVF and feel like a failure

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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5662 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I really wish I could say something meaningful but I’ve never been in this situation so I can’t even start to pretend that I know how this feels. I just wanted to tell you I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this, keep reminding yourself that this IS NOT your fault, it’s not a result of your choices or something you are doing. It just is what it is and sometimes it happens to the best people who deserve to be moms more than anything. I hope that this works for you and hopefully the first round! Big hugs as well because you deserve one!

Post # 4
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188 posts
Blushing bee

@KoiKove:  I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this. All I can think is that you are so blessed to have a husband who is willing to go through it with you. Perhaps focusing on the strength of the things that you have will help you feel better? In any case you are on todays prayer list.

Post # 5
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1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@KoiKove:  It is absolutely NOT your fault!  I have had many friends and family members go through IVF and they felt exactly like you do.  One family member is on her third round of IVF and she is so depressed.  It’s easy for me to say to keep positive, but that’s what you have to do.  Keep in mind also that many women are not successful at their first IVF attempt – in fact, none of the women that I knew that went through it was.  It took multiple attempts before they were able to carry to full term.

Sending big hugs your way!

Post # 7
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2952 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

Unfortunetly sometimes we have no control over things.

You sound like you did all that you could do to improve your chances of becoming pregnant.

You are not a failure. Try to stay positive as hard as it is.

Goodluck your journey is only beginning so don’t give up on yourself.

Sending baby dust your way:)

Post # 8
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2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@KoiKove:  I’m so sorry you feel this way, but it is NOT your fault. Your fertility is completely out of your hands and there is absolutely nothing you can do that you haven’t done already. I can guarantee you that your Darling Husband is not thinking this way either, just like you wouldn’t be blaming him if the shoe were on the other foot. It’s unfortunate, it’s unfair, it’s awful – but there is noone to blame. I’m sorry you’ve gone so long missing the baby that’s meant to be yours, and I’m sorry you’re having to go this route to find him or her, but it will be worth it in the end. *big hugs*

Post # 9
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh sweetie, you are certainly NOT a failure.  I’m sorry that you have had to go through this difficult journey and understand that you are feeling down about it, but this is certainly not your fault.  Best wishes with IVF.  I look forward to you posting about your BFP in the near future.  

Post # 10
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

double post!

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