Post # 1
Was hoping to get some advice from anyone who started a new job with a wedding already planned…
My wedding will be on 15 March next year, and I am starting a new job this Monday.
I haven’t told my employer yet that I have a wedding and honeymoon planned (I just would never get a job if I mentioned that).
I’m a dedicated employee and work extremely hard, so fingers crossed they’ll like me and confirm me in my position come 17 March, even though I will have just left for my wedding/honeymoon.. but has anybody been in the same position?
Anybody have any advice and tips? How long do you think I should wait before I tell them?
I thought I should give it 2 weeks to prove myself first and then tell them ASAP ?
My honey moon is booked for 3 weeks btw, and I was hoping to take the week before the wedding off – so one month in total.
Post # 3
Personally I would rethink the idea of going on the honeymoon at that time. You would have just started a new job and after a few months you already want to take a whole month off. Sorry but that is not going to look great to your employers. I don’t think you would have worked long enough to qualify for vacation time. Most places at least expect you to work a year before you can take vacation. You might get unpaid leave but I can’t see them granting an entire month.
Post # 4
i would tell them asap- I hate having things hanging over my head. just lay it out and let them know that you understand the probabtionary periord however this was an event planned prior to you accepting the job. (you may even offer to take the time off during the period without pay- ie: 1 week without pay & 2 weeks with pay). I went on a 1 week vacation 1 month after I started my job and just did it without pay- everyone was cool with it.
Post # 5
I was honest with my employer when I interviewed with my job. They, of course, asked if I had anything that would affect my ability to work, and I had to tell them that I was getting married in two weeks. It’s a full time job in my line of work, and they had no problem at all. You run the risk of someone else already having a request in for that week… you need to tell them asap…
Post # 6
Yeah taking a full month off doesn’t seem likely to get approved. I haven’t told my job about my wedding/honeymoon yet, but when they hired me I was told not to worry about anything I already had planned (I told them I had a flight booked already for my cousin’s wedding last month and needed 3 days off). I think it’s ok to expect some wiggle room, getting married is a pretty big deal, but a month is a bit much..
Post # 7
This is really something that should have been discussed during the negotiation process. When my wedding rolls around in 2 weeks, I will only have 1 week vacation saved and I work for a pretty flexible job that lets me use my vacation as it is accrued, no waiting for my probation to be up. I have been at my job for 1.25 years, one of the years was as a contractor, the other 5 months have been as a full employee. I will also only be taking off 4 days now, my honeymoon is not until January at the earliest. I told my employers that I would need time off when we were doing the negotiation process, so they knew what they were getting in to. I think that its rather rude of you to expect your employer to give you off a month when you have only been working there for 6 months. Depending on your job, you might not even be done training yet. I think you should tell them now, before you start, so that they can start training you knowing that you will be gone in March.
Post # 8
I can’t imagine ever asking for a month off, much less if I had only been working there for six months. I would change your honeymoon plans and ask for 2 weeks instead (either a week before and a week for the honeymoon or no time before and 2 weeks for the honeymoon).
Post # 9
I’ve been at my job for 7 years and I’ve got about a zillion leave hours banked, and I wouldn’t dream of trying to take off an entire month unless I was having a baby or caring for a dying relative. You need to tell your employer ASAP.
Post # 10
Wow! Three weeks! Sounds like an amazing honeymoon! 🙂
I started a new job recently and was up front with them. Granted, I’m only taking 4 days off, but they were very understanding, and they let me leave early for my dress fittings, pictures, etc. For something like that, you need to tell them ASAP, and just know you may need to rethink your honeymoon if they balk at an entire month off.
Post # 11
Like PPs, I think it’s unrealistic to expect them to let you take so much time off. How much leave does your position accumulate per year? I don’t think I’ve had a job where I got a month in total vacation time per year.
If I were you, I’d go to my boss ASAP and let them about your plans. Make sure you apologize for not bringing it up beforehand. If they balk at your requested time off, let them know that you understand it’s a lot to ask and you are willing to be flexible on the amount of leave they are able to give. Employment is a bigger deal than a honeymoon; you can always take future romantic vacations down the road.
Post # 12
Hmm i am thinking maybe 2 week honeymoon, and take 3 days off before the wedding, and one of the weeks can be leave without pay….
I hope that is a good compromise.
THanks for all your advice!!