- 7 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
Hi Catholic bees,
I’m hoping you can help cheer me up a bit and maybe offer some ideas for personalizing our Catholic ceremony (no mass).
My fiance and I were both raised Catholic, in fact we met at the Catholic university we both attended. However, I would not say that either of us are particularly religious and neither of us is overly excited about being married in a church. We both envisioned a romantic evening ceremony in the same location as our reception. But, having us married in the church was extemely important to both of our parents so we agreed to do it and now we’re having a 2pm ceremony with the dreaded gap between the ceremony and 5pm cocktail hour.
Now that we are starting to plan the individual aspects of the ceremony, I am really starting to regret not putting up a bigger fight on this. We are not getting married in the church that either of us grew up in for logistical reasons so the place has no meaning for us (and to be honest, its kinda ugly). When I look at the readings we have to choose from, I find most of them offensive. Plus no one can give me a straight answer of what music I can and can’t use.
The way its turning out, nothing in the ceremony has particular meaning for us. Its gotten to the point where we both just want the ceremony to be done and over with as soon as possible, which is obviously upsetting since the whole point of the wedding is the ceremony.
I am perfectly happy to have a traditional ceremony, I never wanted to write my own vows, etc. and I honestly appreciate the history and tradition that comes with a Catholic ceremony — I just thought there would be something about the ceremony that would speak to us as a couple.
Does anyone have any ideas for readings or liturgical music that we should look into or other small ways we can make the ceremony ours?