- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Sorry this might be long but I need to vent to people that are not directly involved with my life. My wedding is not until November so I do know there is plenty of time to have my bridesmaids plan things, however, half of my bridal party is in a total of 6 different weddings all before mine! I explained this to my sister who is my moh and told e she would have to get in touch with the bridesmaids about dates because there are so many other things going in, I’m also a bridesmaid in another wedding 2 months before mine.
Well my moh after I told her yesterday she should already have been on top of this, not being ride ills but she has a bad track record for taking care of anything, she was suppose to plan a 30th Bday for me last year and forgot! So I don’t have much trust in her but she is my sister so I felt obligated to have her as my moh. Yesterday after I nicely mentioned to her that she should start getting dates together she sent out an email to all my bridesmaids telling them that the bridezilla was loosing it and they needed to figure out dates now. Of course my friends are going to call to make sure I’m ok. I couldn’t believe she said that, when I confronted her she sent out another email yelling at them for tellig me what she said! I was furious at her at this pony, these are all my close friends and he was making me look awful and making herself look even worse! We got into a really bad argument, she said awful things to me and I just told her I wanted her to have nothing to do with my wedding and hung up. She obviously gets my mother involved but thankfully my mother agreed with me and said what my sister did was uncalled for, caused unnecessary drama. And there’s more….
In the midst of all of this, one of my bridesmaids is going through a divorce, her soon to be ex husband is also one of our groomsmen. I’ve been trying to stay as neutral as possible, I listen to her complain about her relationship for hours and hours and how bad everythingIs and yesterday she basically tells me I’m a bad friend to her. I work two jobs over 70 hours a week and I go to school so I can graduate in May and planning a wedding, I am there for er as much as I can be but still have to be there for my family and FI! I can never tell her when something good is going on because I’m insensitive to her problems I can never tell her when something bad is going on like yesterday with my sister because my problems aren’t half as bad as hers! I feel like I’m walking on eggshells! She’s the only person that doesn’t understand that I barely have time to sleep never mind be at everyone’s beck and call. I fel awful that she’s goin through a divorce but also to give u some background this isn’t the first time they have supposedly went through a divorce so it’s just hard to go through it all over again when I have so much stuff going on myself. I do give her a lot of my time I just don’t see her daily anymore. I barely even see my Fiance anymore! Now I feel like she might drop out of my wedding and I’m heartbroken. Am I really becoming a bridezilla and people hate me? I have been so accommodating to everyone even letting them wait so long to buy a bridesmaid dress, so long in fact the one I loved is loved is now being discontinued :(.
Now my sister and I are not talking, my best friend is not talking to me. I feel miserable and alone and feel like all this drama is making me want to cancel my wedding and just elope, marrying him is the only thing that matters in the end anyways.
Anyone have any suggestions on what I should do??