(Closed) Starting to feel guilty…

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Just remember that this wedding is for them too. This an extremely proud moment for parents, and a very important one. Enjoy it, because they are too! If I am someday in the position to throw my daughter a wedding you can bet it will be to the best of my ability!

Post # 4
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3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Is anyone else feeling guilty about money?

Yes, constantly. My parents & grandma have been sweet enough to offer us to help with the costs & we can definitely afford it ourselves as well. However, I still feel a little sick when I look at the budget & I definitely know what you mean about the “snowball effect”. I’m trying to cut costs as much as I can, simply because I don’t feel comfortable spending that much on one day. If I could re-do all of it, we would have eloped.

Post # 6
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3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MissSpark:I know how that feels – my grandma made this large deposit to my bank account and it PAINS me to have to use it for things that’s not a house or a trip I’ve always wanted to go on… or pretty much anything that’s more lasting than flowers & confetti. I solved that one by directing that money towards the wedding bands, at least make me feel a little better.

 

As for your lighting issue, there’s no way you can have portable light there? Just string a bunch of extension cables together from a room where there’s electricity?

Post # 7
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4436 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I know it seems like a lot of money for one day, but first and foremost- your parents want you to be happy! They can afford the expense, are happy to do so and I think what they don’t want is for you to have any bad feelings about your big day. In the future, I hope to be able to provide such a fabulous experience for my son- I would only expect a lot of hugs and kisses in return:) You have an awesome family- now enjoy your big day and post a lot of pics after!!

Post # 8
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1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MissSpark:  I just posted about feeling guilty! All the presents and parties and money… I really feel undeserving of all this attention.

Post # 9
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2120 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

im feeling guilty! i feel like im asking a lot of people. i hate taking money from my mom cuz i know she doesnt really have it. but shes been helping out the most. im asking  a lot of differnt things from friends. miki has to pay for a ticket for her, her husband and her two kids. Tell is going to be my photographer, but her ex-H is the best man. hes bringing his Girlfriend:(. its a lot of ask someone but photographers are soo expensive and she is a pro. i think my Fiance parents are going to have to pay for grandmas ticket and her place to stay. also my wedding is in the middle of longlineing season so im asking people to take off some time from work (when in reality their work only last may -june and they make a but load) my Fiance brother had to turn down a fishing job he could have made 25,000 at :P. i mean that was last min. but still i have def. been feeling guilty!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I feel way guilty. My parents are affording the whole wedding. My FH and I wanted our parents to split the bill, but they are so traditional and they had to pay for his sisters wedding ($20k). S So my parents are not able to afford to do all the deposits neccesary, probabaly not untill august. We just want a small restaurant reception so I think we’ll be okay time wise. But, everytime someone brings up the wedding, we feel so awkward lol.  We are students full time as in only allowed to work 20hrs per werk each due to intense programs. I babysit and do temp work and he does tutor once in a while. We try  to help out but nothing substantial. The wedding will only be $6,000 tops.

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