(Closed) Starting to feel like it's never going to happen

posted 4 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
Member
5135 posts
Bee Keeper

Hey. I feel your pain, as do many of the ladies on the Waiting board. You may get a few more responses if you move your post there. I know how difficult it is. I have been with my SO for 4 years and there isn’t even a ring in sight. It is frustrating.

You are allowed to bring these issues up with your SO, especially as a ring has been bought, it is obvious that you would be waiting for a proposal. Did he give any explanation as to why he now isn’t ready?

Post # 4
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2 posts
Wannabee

Hunny,

I feel your pain. May I share my story with you?

 

The short version: My beloved is from Russia… How he found me ten years ago, still amazes me but he did. He has been all over the world and has seen many women but he picked me. A normal American girl, me…

We have been dating over the past 10 years but broke up several times. We both chalk this up to “growing up”. Well this last time around we have devoted ourselves to eachother for the past 3 years. We have always been in love with eachother and we both know we can never live without the other. My belovid has had this ring for 6 months now. He says to me he wants to ask this question only once in his life therefore he wants to do it right.

I have been highly impatient. I am not a huge fan of surprises therefore when I know something this huge is comming I cannot for the life of me settle my nerves. I know it is absolutely frustrating and believe me I bring this engagment up to him daily. He is a stubborn man and wont do anything until he wants to do it. Maybe your love is the same. He “isnt ready” may be that he will do it when his plans are in order, I don’t believe he means he isnt ready to commit to you… he has already done that.

 

Post # 5
Member
4528 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I would personally go crazy if I knew he had a ring, so I get why you’re feeling impatient. 2 years may not be a long time, but you were led to believe something would happen and it didn’t, and that’s always disappointing

Post # 6
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4703 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I guess it depends if you want to wait for him or not. You also need to know if he’s “not ready” as in “not yet” or “not ready” as in “I don’t want to get married, I’m not sure about us”. 

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