Starting to get a bit antsy…

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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swink :  Make sure you have a clear and honest conversations about timelines and how you feel. My SO was not ready at 3 years. Just remember that everyone moves at their own pace. I also did long distance for two years of our relationship. I think living closer together definitely brought us closer to being ready. Hopefully your bf gets the new job so you can see each other more! 

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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swink :  

Ask him what needs to happen for him to feel ready.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Queens, NY

I’d echo what the others have said but also to take everything he says and you’re feeling and set some tangible goals together. My SO and I never actually set a definite timeline because he thought they were too confining, but we did set goals to achieve before we got engaged. Almost all of our goals have been met and those that haven’t have had enough progress made toward meeting them that we know we can comfortably get engaged and start planning our wedding.

So see how he feels about timelines, but definitely set goals. Goals are sometimes a more palatable way of setting a loose timeline for some people.

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