Post # 1
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. We don’t live together, mainly because we’re semi long distance and can’t work out how to live together and still commute to our jobs without hating life. He’s starting to look for a new job, so hopefully this will change soon.
I’m definitely ready to get engaged. He knows this but he’s not ready. He has told me he thinks we’ll probably get engaged in the next year or so, although nothing definite. We talk about children, our future etc. But again, I don’t feel like that’s a guarantee that he plans to propose.
I can’t tell whether he’s stringing me along and is never going to be ready. Or whether he is just taking longer than me and he’ll get there in time. When is the time to just say enough is enough and move on?
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
Make sure you have a clear and honest conversations about timelines and how you feel. My SO was not ready at 3 years. Just remember that everyone moves at their own pace. I also did long distance for two years of our relationship. I think living closer together definitely brought us closer to being ready. Hopefully your bf gets the new job so you can see each other more!
Post # 3
Ask him what needs to happen for him to feel ready.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2019 - Queens, NY
I’d echo what the others have said but also to take everything he says and you’re feeling and set some tangible goals together. My SO and I never actually set a definite timeline because he thought they were too confining, but we did set goals to achieve before we got engaged. Almost all of our goals have been met and those that haven’t have had enough progress made toward meeting them that we know we can comfortably get engaged and start planning our wedding.
So see how he feels about timelines, but definitely set goals. Goals are sometimes a more palatable way of setting a loose timeline for some people.