- 8 years ago
Hello fellow waiters!
I’ve been with my Boyfriend or Best Friend for just about 3 years (anniversary is in 2.5 weeks). We have been living together for about 1.5 years. Everything is going great and we’re overall very happy. I found out via a discussion we had about something unrelated that he hasn’t “moved our relationship along” because he thinks I’m financially irresponsible. I gotta say, that hurt. I grew up with little to no money and have worked really hard to not be that way my entire life. Not to mention, I work full time, go to school full time, and pay for daily things like rent, insurance, electric, etc; so of course I don’t have any money. He has already graduated college (almost 2 years ago) and makes about 2.5 times what I make, giving him the ability to save more. I’m frustrated that A) why does everything have to be about money and B) I’m not out there buying ridiculous things with what I do have left of my paychecks. I just don’t understand what he’s looking for to see me as financially responsible. When I asked him about that, he basically said “I don’t know”, very helpful, lol.
However! Since we’ve had that conversation and I explained to him “I don’t really know what you’re looking for considering I have a lot of nes. expenses and don’t blow my money” he has been far more affectionate. I also noticed that this year he has actually been speaking with my family regarding Christmas and has stated he wants me to come with if his family goes out of state (which they usually do). I’m afraid to get my hopes up that maybe the only thing I want for Christmas this year I’ll have: an engagement.
I would love to get your thoughts and experience on this!