- 5 years ago
haven’t written too many posts here just more of a reader but lately, especially with the holiday season, I am starting to lose it! I have always said I would never bring up all the time/get annoyed when others get engaged and I am starting to have a hard time keeping that promise. My boyfriends brother (who is my age, boyfriend is older) is engaed and now during family functions it is all people talk about. He is the first to get married so of course the family is extremely happy and I understand that but it seems to be all his family brings up. Yesterday at the table it was the majority of the conversation. Then the topic of me and my boyfriend getting married gets brought up and his uncle made a snide comment like “yeah whenever that happens”. I asked him what he meant and he said you guys will get married in a couple of years.
His family seems to think that we will never get married anytime soon (we have been dating for only 2 years but seems to be around the time most people we know started getting engaged). Boyfriend knows what ring I like and we talk about it happening in the future but seeing everyone be so happy for his brother and almost think less of our relationship and seeing so many couples get engaged around this time just upsets me.
I feel like I am almost starting to be bitter about his brothers upcoming wedding because they have the luxury of being the first ones and all the excitement that comes with that. Trust me I know how selish and bitchy that is but it just really is upsetting how his family seems to not take our relationship seriously just because we are not engaged yet. I am finishing up graduate school and we both want to work hard for our future and make sure we can have a good life but it seems like that doesn’t matter.
Sorry for just a long post from an occassional poster but I just need to vent this all out so I am not a bitter waiting bee!