Post # 1
I am getting married in September and am starting to look ahead to the next few years. I am 29 and FI is 32. We are starting to think about when we want to start our family (post marriage). I know things may not go as planned and we will let nature do it’s own thing but here are my thoughts. We are thinking we’d like two children. Since we are a little older, we don’t want to wait too long (I was thinking about a year after we get married to start trying). We also don’t want our children to be too close in age, maybe 2.5-3 years apart. I know a lot of people who have children that are less than 2 years apart. So my questions are: how old are you and hubby? how long did you wait (or are planning on waiting) after you got married to start trying? how far apart are your children (or how far apart do you want them to be)? I’m curious to hear your thoughts behind these questions and answers, too. My thoughts are based partially on the fact that my brother is 2 years, 9 months older than me. We get along just fine, he has been more helpful and like a true older brother over all the years. I also think it would be easier to have your first child out of diapers when the second one arrives. I’m also an aunt to 2 year old twins, and my they are a handful. I can hardly keep up with with them. Please share your experiences or thoughts!
Post # 3
I am now 30 and FI will be 35 in August. We started trying about 21 months after getting married. We got KU on our second cycle. We are hoping to have 2 and do them one right after the other, it just depends on finances and things like that. Honestly, it’s not about the kids getting along and stuff, I am 13 years younger than my brother and we always get along. I just want to be able to go through everything around the same time. No sense in gettnig my body put back together just in time to start again. My niece was 2 when my nephew was born and he was born a month early which completely interrupted her potty training and threw everything out of whack for her so they had to start all over. They had a third 4 years after my nephew was born and my SIL was just like everything changed in those 4 years, all the rules, have changed, all the technology everything. She said she wouldn’t do it that way again.
Post # 4
We’re both 31. We got married when we were 30 and waited a year to start trying. We got pregnant on our third cycle off bcp. I want two kids and would like them to be about 3 years apart. I really want the first one potty trained and in preschool before a second, for financial reasons and I think it would be hard having two in diapers. Also I’ve read that having kids too close together (less than 18 months apart) can cause problems with the second child.
Post # 5
I’m about to turn 25, DH is turning 30. We are planning on waiting until after we’ve been married a year, and will probably start trying soon after that. I wouldn’t want them to be too far apart, but maybe a year or 2.
Post # 6
We got marry when I was 30 and DH was 31. We started to officially TTC in August of last year. I am now 31 and DH is 32. We wanted our kids to be a least 2-3 years apart, cause I thought of the same thing as you, they have to be out of diapers before trying for another. However, our plans hasnt turned out like we wanted to. WE are still TTC. This is our 9th cycle and we are heading to RE next cycle to further look into our options. With that in mind, we have changed our plans and we will have our second or third child right after our first one. My plans changed.