(Closed) starving bridesmaid, no vegetarian food offered at wedding

posted 8 years ago in Food
Post # 3
8434 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@vegetariangirl:  Wow, really?  They’re not doing anything for vegetarians?  I guess bring your own food?  I’ve honestly never heard of something like this.  I’d ask your friend and see what she says, maybe it’s just an oversight on her part.


Post # 4
7199 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@vegetariangirl:  Wow. So so thoughtless of her! I really feel for you. Maybe if the food casually comes up you could say something like “Oh, so should I pack a lunch or something?”, like you just need to clarify. Maybe she actually totally forgot? Or maybe something like “Am I the only vegitarian? Only because I wondered if they knew they should eat before the reception.”

Post # 5
8572 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Maybe you could ask if you can bring in some dishes of your own? Just let her know there’s nothing there you can eat, and offer to whip up some of your own dishes for you, and other guests to enjoy.

It won’t cost her any more money [I’m guessing they are trying to keep it on the low cost side, since there are only 2 sides], and you’ll get to eat!

It is kind of strange that she didn’t take into consideration any vegans, unless you are the only one.

Post # 6
5398 posts
Bee Keeper

You must be the only vegetarian she has coming. I would just pack some food. You could ask her if she has an options for you, but don’t push the issue. 

Post # 7
3942 posts
Honey bee

Ya, thats rude. If she isnt willing to provide anything for you, I guess just bring your own food. Thats super annoying of her though.

Post # 8
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

That’s awful, I’d be pissed if I was you. She has you as a bridesmaid, knows you’re a vegetarian, and won’t get you another food option? I get cranky from not eating too, but I’d have another reason for being cranky that day, due to her not caring if I ate or not!!!  That is so rude, sorry OP. I’d confront her for sure.

Post # 9
9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@vegetariangirl:  That is pretty bad of her to do that when she knows you are vegetarian.  We are making sure to provide a hearty salad alongside our BBQ buffet even though we don’t expect any vegetarians at the wedding.  If we knew someone with a specific issue, we would probably add at least one more hearty side of grilled /steamed veggies or maybe portobello mushroom tops so they could make them into veggie burgers.  It is difficult to accommodate everyone but knowing that a bridesmaid will be going without a decent meal just sounds mean.

I guess you will need to pack a meal for yourself since she expects you to starve.

Post # 10
2559 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why do you have to “confront” her – can’t you just ask her nicely if there are going to be any options that can be made for you, or if you should bring some food for yourself? Maybe she forgot to follow up your preferences with the caterer or you’re her only veg attendee? Try not to take it personally.

Post # 11
3339 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

You need to talk to her about it.  This would be completely unacceptable even for guests.  But you’re a bridesmaid for goodness sakes!!!


Post # 12
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Ugh, that’s rude. I love my meat, but I have a bridesmaid and her family that is vegetarian and we’re offering many different vegetarian options for cocktail, the stations, AND the main course. That’s pretty bad of your bride. :/

Post # 13
2947 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

How rude of her! I would let her know and ask her what you are meant to eat?

i would probably  bring my own food which seems crazy to have to do that

Post # 14
2211 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Did she tell you that she wasn’t going to provide you any food, or are you just assuming that based on the fact that the meal is catered BBQ?  If the former, that’s very rude and inconsiderate of her – especially since you are part of her bridal party!  If the latter, I would ask her (not confront her) what she’s planning on offering to her vegetarian guests, including you.  

Maybe she just hasn’t thought through the fact that some of her guests don’t eat meat, or she hasn’t clued you in to her alternate plans for the vegetarians who will be attending yet.

Post # 15
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Leave early and treat yourself to a yummy dinner that you can eat.

I can’t eat gluten and I don’t eat red meat or pork, so I’m often in situations where I can’t eat what’s being served but that’s usually because people don’t know that I have restructions.  In that situation, I don’t make a big deal out of it but I have to say that if a good friend knew that I had restrictions and basically told me to eff off when I brought it up, I’d just leave and take myself out to dinner. 

Post # 16
1621 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, I think that it’s incredibly rude not to offer choices in this day and age, budget or not.  A gracious host would always consider the needs of guests, especially her dearest friends (such as the bridal party)! I would bring it up directly but respectfully, as others above have suggested….but would NOT offer to bring my own food.  If a dear friend didn’t have a care to consider my needs and expect me to bring my own food to her wedding, I would seriously reconsider the friendship AND attending the wedding. 

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