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Hi Bees! My SO & I are talking about having a destination wedding & have recently talked about DC & NY. She has always wanted to get married in a church & has told me that she doesn’t feel like she can do it being gay. Neither of us are super religious but both Christians & both raised in semi-religious families. I’m wondering if there are churches that allow gay ceremonies in any of the states that permit gay marriage. & has anyone actually done a church wedding (or is planning to)? I really hope I’m able to do this for her!
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From what I understand, it’s the chruches decision whether they’re closed minded twits or if they’ll allow gay marriage, no?
Post # 4
The National Cathedral in DC is going to start hosting same sex weddings….maybe that’s an option? Good luck!
Post # 5
Try unitarian universalist churches.
Post # 6
@nikix: Yes it is definitely the churches’ decisions. They by no means have to cooperate with state law here.
Thank you @BOGB: & @IrisBlue: I will look into these!
I have read articles that the episcopal church officially voted to allow it IF the individual church wanted to but I don’t know if any individual churches have actually said ok or not =/
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I was going to say the same thing, try Unitarian Universalist. One of my best friends is gay, and her father is a Unitarian Universalist pastor (I think they call them pastors?). She was engaged and planned on getting married in the church. We are in Washington which is the wrong side of the country, but I still thought it might be helpful! Plus Washington is gorgeous. 😉
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I will also chime in that UU churches are probably one of your best bets.
Post # 9
I don’t have any advice, but just wanted to wish you luck in finding church and congrats on the engagement!
Post # 10
The Congregational Church in Guilford, CT has hosted a couple of gay marriages (according to my fiance and his mother).
Post # 11
@soontobemrsm11: I know you said you were looking at DC or NY but I’d check into Unitarian Universalist Churches in MA (probably Western MA). Same-sex marriage has been legal for quite a while (since 2004) in MA and the Universalist Church is known for being accepting of all people so there is bound to be one on MA that has and will perform a same-sex marriage.
By The Way, Congratualtions on your engagement!
Post # 12
Second, regardless of the state of the law in your state, they can’t actually pass a law requiring a particular church to recognize or perform marriages for same-sex couples.
Unfortunately, there’s no part of the Constitution where it says “and stop being an ignorant douchebag.”
That said, some churches are more welcoming than others; most of the churches in our area are pretty nose-in-the-air regarding the subject, but there are a couple that openly advertise that same-sex couples are welcomed.
Look around a bit; I’d bet you could find one without too much trouble.
Post # 13
Just a quick internet search hope it helps and congratulations!
- New York Wedding Clergy. Rev Alison Caiola. All Faith Gay & Lesbian Wedding Ceremonies. Long Island, New York, 5 Boros & Connecticut. All Faith Ordained Minister Designs & performs beautiful Wedding & Commitment Ceremonies From The Heart. We work together to design the ceremony exactly as you have always envisioned. [email protected]
- American Orthodox Catholic Church Western Rite. The AOCC will perform GLBT weddings and also will ordain GLBT persons to the ministry. Locations in Texas, New York, Colorado and Florida. [email protected] Rev. Thomas Squiers
- AIM Performs sophisticated and spiritual commitment ceremony for mature adults. Reasonable rate. Manhattan only. Reasonable fee celebration for those who cannot take advantage of Canadian law. Let this be a temporary move toward happiness and contentment. 3 weeks advance notice for Sat or Sun ceremony. [email protected]
- Rev. Anthony P. Johnson. First Unitarian Universalist Church of Essex County. [email protected]
- Eileen Regan. Humanist Celebrant, available in NYC and surrounding areas for personalized civil union and wedding services.[email protected]
- Interfaith Services. Rev. Jesse Caudill. Make your ceremony the centerpiece of your wedding day. We offer unique commitment ceremonies that speak to your heart. [email protected]
- Rev. Kay Greenleaf. Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Poughkeepsie, NY. We are a Welcoming Congregation with a strong history of support for gays and lesbians. [email protected].
- Bishop Richard G. Roy, National Catholic Church of America, 166 Jay St., Albany NY 12210, 518-434-8861, [email protected]
- Brilliant U and Circle of One Ceremonies. Lovely, heart-based, custom designed personal commitment ceremonies from a loving woman minister/photographer. She can officiate the service, then take the photojournalistic photographs! [email protected]
- Church of Ancient Ways. Long Island. Together we find the words to the song your hearts share and use them to create a ceremony that expresses who you both are. Rev. Marie Gismondi. [email protected]
- Father Charles B. Burrell, OSJD, St. Joseph House
National Catholic Church of America, Box 427, West Park, NY 12493, 914-384-9275, [email protected]
- Circle of Pride. New York, New York. Circle of Pride works exclusively with the GLBT community in creating personalized wedding ceremonies that honor our uniqueness. We endeavor to co-create with you a meaningful and memorable wedding.[email protected]
- Gay Lesbian Weddings 4 U – Soul Mate Unions. Reverend Sara. New York, NY. Same Sex Union Ceremonies.[email protected]
- Hudson Valley Ceremonies. Rhinebeck, NY USA. Providing officiant services for weddings, commitment ceremonies, renewal of vows, baby blessings, christenings, and naming ceremonies. [email protected]
- Reverend Dr. Edwin Goldberg. Registered Interfaith Clergy. [email protected]
- Rev Ed Goldberg. New York City. NY. Ich bin amtiere an Ihrer Vebindung Zermonie in der Stadt New York vorhanden. Zeromonie auf Englisch. Heiratskunde unterzeichnete and zeugte. Nominal Gebuehr $100. [email protected]
- Independent Catholic Christian Church. Metro New York. Inclusive sacramental Christian ministry performing same-sex marriage services. [email protected]
- Interfaith. New York City. I provide a humanistic and sophisticated marriage or commitment ceremony. “Marry Whom you Love” 212-877-3115.
- The Rev. Louis V. Schwebius. [email protected] , Consulting Minister at UU Congregation of Central Nassau, 223 Stewart Avenue, Garden City, NY 11530. (516) 248-8855. Ordained Unitarian Universalist minister; my denomination supports same-sex unions, and advocates the legalization of gay marriages. http://www.uuccn.org/
- The Rev. Louis V. Schwebius. [email protected] , Consulting Minister at UU Fellowship of Bellport, 51 Brown’s Lane, Bellport, NY 11713, (631) 286-8459.Ordained Unitarian Universalist minister; my denomination supports same-sex unions, and advocates the legalization of gay marriages. http://www.uufb.net/
- Reverend Lynn Keller – Saugerties, New York. Lesbian wedding officiant in New York – Drawing from traditional or non-traditional texts, literature, or music to bring the truth of your love into a form that represents you both.
- Spiritually Connected. Rev. C.C. Banks. [email protected]. I am a wedding officiant in New York City and New York State. I would love to officiate your commitment/partnership ceremony
- Unitarian Universalist Church of Amherst. “We are a caring and welcoming congregation that fosters personal and spiritual growth through free religious thought in the search for truth, while celebrating diversity and affirming the dignity and worth of every person.” [email protected].
- Unitarian Universalist Church of Canandaigua. “We are a caring and welcoming congregation that fosters personal and spiritual growth through free religious thought in the search for truth, while celebrating diversity and affirming the dignity and worth of every person.” [email protected].
Post # 14
@jazzy14: I have family in Oregon & California so since Washington passed the law (yay!!) I’ve actually thought about that! I haven’t mentioned it to my SO yet though, I’m waiting to see how many family members from over here are actually going to attend. If not many, maybe we’ll be headed that way =)
Thanks to you all for the congrats! but technically we aren’t engaged yet =/ We don’t want a long engagement so we’re waiting until a year before we want to get married (which is tentatively planned for Jan 2015) But we ARE getting my ring custom made as we speak! A part of me is *hoping* she’s planning on surprising me early but I honestly have no idea! lol I’m a huge planner & we talk about it daily so I’ve been wanting to look into churches early.
I definitely am aware they can’t force the churches to marry same-sex couples. (& honestly, I wouldn’t want to be married by someone who is being “forced” into it anyways!) I just know a lot of Christians that ARE supportive of equal rights & it gives me hope that I can find a church for my SO =) I’ve never heard of UU, thank you all for suggesting it, I will definitely look into that as well!
@BeachBride2014: Thank you for a specific church that you’ve heard does it! I’ll google it.
Post # 15
@soontobemrsm11: Well if you do come to Washington, I know a Unitarian Universalist pastor for you in Northern Seattle! :] And I was sooo excited when the gay marriage bill passed!! :]
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