Post # 1
Help. Daughter cannot decide between sit-down dinner or appetizer stations. The wedding is intimate (family only) with reception to follow at 7pm for everyone else. We thought her first decision for butler passed hors d ouerves and food stations was perfect. Now she believes her guests will think they went “cheap” even though it does cost more than plated dinner. What are your opinions? experience?
Post # 3
I think either would be fine, and that neither would be perceived as less expensive. It is really up to what kind of vibe you all are aiming for. Stations allow for more mingling and seated is great for intimacy.
Post # 4
Welcome! So, she needn’t worry. We did butler passed hors, a table of hors, and 4 food stations-and my wedding was formal. This cost more than a plated dinner at my reception as well, and the entree choices were MUCH better, and the food stayed warm and guests could take all of the options if they so pleased. Have her make a menu and place one on each table so the guests see the amount of food that will be available to them. Its not like a buffet, typically at stations, a chef serves you. If you want, PM me and I can send over a photo of our menu so you can see how we did it.
Good luck =o) Youre so sweet to come here for your daughter!
Post # 5
personally i like food stations better. you don’t get as many options when you have a sit down dinner, and that’s not good for picky eaters like myself.
Post # 6
I’m doing stations and I would hope that people wouldn’t think that looks cheap! I agree with Mrs. DG that stations provide opportunity for mingling and give people a range of options they might not have with a plated dinner, which is the main reason we decided on stations. Caterers can do really amazing things with the food presentation at stations as well. Tell her to chill out. Nobody will think that.
Post # 7
Considering the fact that the guest list is small, I think either option will work out really well. The only drawback I can see regarding the stations is when there are a lot of guests, the stations get kind of backed up and there’s less time to sit around and socialize. And I don’t think the guests will think she’s being cheap, I like the stations. I’ve been to a bunch of weddings and I’ve never thought that.
Post # 8
Ours was food stations and it was the same price as sit down served meals. We chose it becuase it allowed others to mingle and not have to wait for the food. It was the best because they could get as much as they want and it was delicious! I vote stations!
Post # 9
It is a hard decision to make! I would let your daughter know not to worry about perceived cheapness. As Mrs.DG said it has more to do with the overall feeling of the reception. We went with an hors d’ouvres reception because we wanted our guests to just enjoy mingling and catching up with friends/meeting new ones. A sit down dinner does offer more intimacy at each table.
Post # 10
p.s. if you wanted to get a carving chef if you go the stations route, that looks fancy shmancy.
Post # 11
We did stations at my brother’s wedding and it didn’t go that well because we had way too many guests trying to self-serve themselves. The line was so long and they ran out of food because people served themselves. Also what I didn’t like was how they had it setup. The reception was in an old Plantation House and each room in the house was a different station so you can image the traffic-jams that this created with 250 people!
I think in your daughter’s case with a smaller group it will work out fine. You might consider going to one of the venues other events to see how they have it set-up and how well it flows.
I think the passed trays is a formal look.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone for taking the time to help. I personally think that the majority of guests would enjoy the hors and stations much more than getting stuck at a table with us old folks, lol. I love the idea of placing a menu on the tables so people arriving at the reception will know what is available. Thanks Kelly for the great suggestion! There are several vegans attending and this way we can offer them more choices as well. I’ve learned to back off with my opinions because it’s not my wedding, I just want the couple to be happy with their choice. Daughter’s reasoning for sit down dinner is the groom’s family is “small town” and wouldn’t understand the invite for cocktail and hors’ reception. She thinks they will expect a plated meal.
Post # 13
I mean, if the grooms family doesnt get it they can ask =o) Dont let her plan her wedding around others concerns-eventually they get out of hand. Plus if there are stations, its not just a cocktail and hors reception. They might be confused about the lack of “chicken, beef, or fish” option, but they can ask. Then they can have it explained that they will have multiple options once they arrive.
also, if there are some older guests that might have a difficult time getting to and from teh stations, our venue did provide multiple servers/bussers that were VERY willing to get food for those people. And since there was a menu on the table, they picked off of that rather than go around. DONT make that option well known though, guests might try to take advantage of it.