(Closed) Stay at home and go crazy vs. be elsewhere and away from fiance?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would stay at the hotel.  It sounds too stressful at your apartment and you have enough to be thinking about.  And not seeing your Fiance the day before the wedding will just add a bit more anticipation and make it even more great when you see him on your wedding day.  All the best!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

get out woman, get out while you can!!!!  there will be no rest, relaxation or fun with all those people in your personal space

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you and your Fiance are both okay with it, I’d say go stay at the hotel. It’ll make the wedding day & night seem extra special that way.

Or you could do what I would do, and tell FI’s groomsmen to man up and get a hotel room. No way I’d have that many people staying at my house the week of my wedding! But then, I would never describe myself as “low stress.” πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d go to a hotel – I agree with PPs that it will make the day (and night!) even more special πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I’d go to a hotel but I would also not be okay with so many people in my house the week of the wedding. I would ask sis and bro in law plus their 2 kids to stay in a hotel even if it meant paying part or all of it for them as I could not have had children hanging out with me the days before the wedding when I was only focused on getting seating arrangements and decorations done and dropping off last minute things to the florist and baker. I would also go insane with 2 sets of parents. I could deal with the GMs and siblings and I would certainly have given them tasks to handle if they were in my space.

ETA: Do all those people know how many people will be at your apartment? Do you have more than 1 bathroom for 8+ people? TBH, if I were planning to crash at your apartment, finding out there were so many people camping out there I would find a cheap Motel instead.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Go to a hotel!!! We had people stay with us in the days leading up to the wedding, and it was just too much stress. I felt like I had to play hostess instead of having the time to buckle down and get all the last minute stuff done.

You are going to be a ball of different emotions, and having that many people in your space will drive you bonkers, In My Humble Opinion. It is a very interesting internal place a bride goes to leading up to the day to process what is happening. Don’t deny yourself that.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@judithsr: Stay at the hotel. Besides, it could be fun spending time with your sisters. And when you get to the day of the wedding, you’ll be looking forward to seeing him so much, it’ll be like you’re on a sugar high when you do see him.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would definitely stay at the hotel too.  Imagine how exciting the wedding day will be with a true first look!  πŸ™‚  Have an amazing week!!!!

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

How in the world are you going to fit everyone in a 2br apt!  That cant possibly be comfortable and non chatoic, esp with a 2 yr old.  I have a 4 bedroom 2800 sf house and even the most we had at one time was 2 couples and his friend, then when the two couples left, his sisters family of 3 came.  Sleeping arragements were comfortable, but just dealing with have people around, esp when more people were visiting during the day, gets tiring when you’re entertaining for that long.  I vote go stay at the hotel and get away from the insanity.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

Why don’t you and your Fiance get a hotel room for a couple nights? Sure, it’s kind of backwards, but it may work in this situation.

You’re lucky your Fiance will see you! I’m not allowed to see mine after our rehearsal on a Thursday, and our wedding isn’t until Saturday at 7pm!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

That’s a little crazy to me. Like a PP I have a 4 bedroom home and still lose my mind if I had all those people, especially right before your wedding. I couldn’t imagine a 2 bedroom apt with 1 bath I assume? I would be leaving asap or telling everyone to suck it up and get a room.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@judithsr: Go for it… The hotel will be your serentity….

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