Post # 1
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Busy bee
So, I don’t know if this is emotional necessarily, though I think it has to do with my sanity, so I’ll categorize that as emotions. 🙂
We’re getting married on a Sunday…the week before our wedding, my parents will be staying with us Tuesday through Thursday. On that same Thursday, it’s very likely my fiance’s family will also be staying with us–parents, sister & brother in law, plus 12 year old and 5 year old.
Friday, basically our entire groom’s party will be with us, at least–3 couples, one individual possibly, plus a baby and a 2 year old. And now fiance just told me that another of his friends may stay with us as well. (His friends are all broke so they’re staying with us). Saturday they’ll still be here, though I wasn’t planning on being here anyway.
I tend to be a pretty low stress person, and I’m hoping that carries over into the week before the wedding. Though I’m worried about how sane I’ll be by the end of the week. My parents and sisters are checking into a hotel on the Friday (two different rooms) and my mom said I could stay with my sisters if I want to. And considering there may be 8 people in our apartment (not so large 2 bedrom apartment at that), I’m thinking that may be a better option. The only thing though…if that’s done, I probably won’t see my fiance all of Saturday and really not until the wedding. Which kind of makes me sad.
But I don’t know…I think I also appreciate the idea of preserving my sanity. And my Maid/Matron of Honor has already told me multiple times I need to get out of there. So…any thoughts? Opinions?
Post # 3
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Worker bee
I would stay at the hotel. It sounds too stressful at your apartment and you have enough to be thinking about. And not seeing your Fiance the day before the wedding will just add a bit more anticipation and make it even more great when you see him on your wedding day. All the best!
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
get out woman, get out while you can!!!! there will be no rest, relaxation or fun with all those people in your personal space
Post # 5
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Busy bee
@atlas.wed: I think you’re right about the positive anticipation…and I can suck it up for a day. 🙂
@eloping: Your comment made me laugh. Yes…I think you are very correct. Plus, my Maid/Matron of Honor will be staying at the hotel where my family is, and I’d rather hang out with her.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
If you and your Fiance are both okay with it, I’d say go stay at the hotel. It’ll make the wedding day & night seem extra special that way.
Or you could do what I would do, and tell FI’s groomsmen to man up and get a hotel room. No way I’d have that many people staying at my house the week of my wedding! But then, I would never describe myself as “low stress.” 🙂
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
I’d go to a hotel – I agree with PPs that it will make the day (and night!) even more special 🙂
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
I’d go to a hotel but I would also not be okay with so many people in my house the week of the wedding. I would ask sis and bro in law plus their 2 kids to stay in a hotel even if it meant paying part or all of it for them as I could not have had children hanging out with me the days before the wedding when I was only focused on getting seating arrangements and decorations done and dropping off last minute things to the florist and baker. I would also go insane with 2 sets of parents. I could deal with the GMs and siblings and I would certainly have given them tasks to handle if they were in my space.
ETA: Do all those people know how many people will be at your apartment? Do you have more than 1 bathroom for 8+ people? TBH, if I were planning to crash at your apartment, finding out there were so many people camping out there I would find a cheap Motel instead.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
Go to a hotel!!! We had people stay with us in the days leading up to the wedding, and it was just too much stress. I felt like I had to play hostess instead of having the time to buckle down and get all the last minute stuff done.
You are going to be a ball of different emotions, and having that many people in your space will drive you bonkers, In My Humble Opinion. It is a very interesting internal place a bride goes to leading up to the day to process what is happening. Don’t deny yourself that.
Post # 10
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Busy bee
@judithsr: Stay at the hotel. Besides, it could be fun spending time with your sisters. And when you get to the day of the wedding, you’ll be looking forward to seeing him so much, it’ll be like you’re on a sugar high when you do see him.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
I would definitely stay at the hotel too. Imagine how exciting the wedding day will be with a true first look! 🙂 Have an amazing week!!!!
Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
How in the world are you going to fit everyone in a 2br apt! That cant possibly be comfortable and non chatoic, esp with a 2 yr old. I have a 4 bedroom 2800 sf house and even the most we had at one time was 2 couples and his friend, then when the two couples left, his sisters family of 3 came. Sleeping arragements were comfortable, but just dealing with have people around, esp when more people were visiting during the day, gets tiring when you’re entertaining for that long. I vote go stay at the hotel and get away from the insanity.
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
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Why don’t you and your Fiance get a hotel room for a couple nights? Sure, it’s kind of backwards, but it may work in this situation.
You’re lucky your Fiance will see you! I’m not allowed to see mine after our rehearsal on a Thursday, and our wedding isn’t until Saturday at 7pm!
Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
That’s a little crazy to me. Like a PP I have a 4 bedroom home and still lose my mind if I had all those people, especially right before your wedding. I couldn’t imagine a 2 bedroom apt with 1 bath I assume? I would be leaving asap or telling everyone to suck it up and get a room.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
@judithsr: Go for it… The hotel will be your serentity….
