Post # 1
Does anyone have any experiance as/with a “stay at home dad”? Was your father a stay at home dad or is your husband? Do you and your SO intend to try this out when you have kids? I’d like to hear some opinions on the topic, good or bad. Thanks! 🙂
Post # 3
My Father-In-Law stayed home when he hurt his back and couldn’t work. My husband says it was a fun time to have dad at home, but parenting was different between a mom and a dad.
There is a good chance my husband may end up a stay at home dad if he can’t find a job that pays enough to cover day care costs.
Post # 4
The only stay-at-home dad I know was my aunt’s ex-husband. It obviously doesn’t have a good outcome.
Basically, she is a big-wig with a pharmeceutical company, and he was a police officer. Before having children, they discussed how they wanted to raise them, and decided that one of them should stay home; at least for a few years. The thing was, she made soooooo much more money than he did (and was a very driven woman). He loved his job, but they both really wanted someone to stay home with the kids, so it only made sense that it would be him.
For the quite a few years, things went really smoothly. He enjoyed his time with the kids and spent a lot of time doing things he loved with them. Once they were in school, he then had plenty of time to fish and hunt, his two favorite hobbies.
But over the years, I have a feeling that he started to feel, I guess you could say, “less of a man” because he wasn’t providing for his family. I think every time she got another promotion, it wore on him. He tried getting a job, but because he had been out of the field for so long and they had moved to another state, he didn’t have much luck. He started blaming her for ruining his career and resented the fact that he had stayed home with the children. He ended up cheating on her with a Boy Scout leader’s wife.
This, of course, could be easily reversed in a stay-at-home mom case, where the mom didn’t really ever want to give up her career. I think it’s important that if someone does stay home, they really really want to. No one has to be a stay-at-home anything.