Post # 1
Does anyone have a Stay at Home Husband? Is that something you’d consider with your partner in the future? I don’t mean partners who telecommute from home or stay at home dads. Even though they’re home for the day, they have clear duties. By SAHH, I mean men that stay home with less defined responsibilities.
For us, I wouldn’t be pleased with a husband just hanging out at home all day, and DH knows that! Fortunately, he’s a pretty diligent guy who has good work. However, in the future, it may be reasonable for him to cut back on the work to focus on staying at home with the kids, especially since I earn a higher income than he does. I’d love to hear about how others approach the idea of a Stay at Home Husband and what that might entail.
Post # 2
I am a Stay-At-Home Wife and soon to be a Stay-At-Home Mom but if the tables were turned, I’d have no qualms with a house husband. Stay at home spouses do not simply “hang out at home all day.”
Post # 3
If women can do it, so can men. But being a parent – an involved parent – is a lot more than just “hanging out at home all day”.
Post # 4
It’s something we have talked about. We need both incomes right now, but if one of us were to stay home, we’d both want it to be him.
Post # 5
Currently, both of us work. However, I make over twice as much as DH does and my salary will continue to grow quite a bit over the next few years. We are thinking about TTC next January/February. When we have a child, DH is considering SAH, at least part-time. My work schedule is inconsistent and super packed, his is a little more flexible. I would have no problem with him SAH and he is open to it.
Post # 6
I would not appreciate having a stay at home husband, but I would also not be ok with me being a stay at home wife either. Stay at home MUM or DAD is a different story.
Post # 7
I work less hours than Fiance so i take on the house “stuff”…i feel good knowing i can help in thisnway. Is the man in question going to keep the house in order, cook/clean, run the errands, take care of routine home maintenance and repairs, and generally support his wife? If so…cool! Sounds like a wonderful husband. If he’s going to stay home and play videogames while leaving all household responsibilities to his wife then that isn’t fair.
Post # 8
He has supported me through grad school, it would only be fair for me to support him.
Besides, he is a better SAHH than I am Stay-At-Home Wife
Post # 9
Nope, not for me. But neither is being a Stay-At-Home Wife. Stay-At-Home Dad is another story, though- my dad stayed home with me and it was awesome!
Post # 10
I am also a Stay-At-Home Wife and I work harder than most people realize.
Today my husband came home and said “Damn, this place smells so clean!! What did you use?” So funny. I make great dinners, I keep our house immaculate, do laundry and I also volunteer.
My husband would not be comfortable with staying at home while I worked. He’s traditional and takes pride in being the provider and breadwinner…even when I am working outside the home.
Post # 11
To each his own, but it’s not for us. I just asked my Fiance if he would be a stay at home husband after clicking on this thread, and based on his reaction, you would think I asked him if he would ever stick his privates in a jar of fire ants. I imagine it would work out well for others, though. Just depends on personality, earning potential, and interests.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
I’m with BaxterBride:
. If SO wanted to be a Stay-At-Home Dad I would be totally on board. SAHH? Not so much. And maybe that’s because I’d never want to be a Stay-At-Home Wife or Stay-At-Home Mom, but I wouldn’t sign up for that. Only exception would be if he was going to school full time. But to each their own.
Post # 13
As a PP mentioned, I wouldn’t be happy with a SAHH but I also wouldn’t accept myself being a Stay-At-Home Wife. Honestly, with us both working we still keep our house and affairs in good order and with a not unreasonable time committment, so designating someone to do this full time would be redundant.
But, I would be very happy with the idea of my partner as a Stay-At-Home Dad.
Post # 14
No. I wouldn’t be ok with that. But neither of us would be ok with me being a Stay-At-Home Wife or Stay-At-Home Mom either. Just not a dynamic either of us us interested in.
Post # 15
I wouldn’t be happy with my Fiance being a SAHH and he wouldn’t be happy with me being a Stay-At-Home Wife, although I would be happy with either of us being a SAHP (I hope he would be too, although I know he assumes I will stay home with the kids when we have them – at least for the first few years). Honestly, my Fiance is a little hopeless when it comes to housework and the like so he really would just sit around at home if he wasn’t at work. I like to think I’d be more proactive with my time, but I know he would feel put out because he would think all I’m doing is watching TV or going to get my nails done all day.