My name is Francisco De Nova. I am 26 years of age, and am opposite of you.
I did terrible in school. Not because I wasn’t competent enough, but due to the many distractions that I allowed to penetrate my concentration.
I just has a discussion with my wife about her becoming a stay at home wife. Which did not turn out so well. We are both for it, but her dad and mom are foregoing a divorce.
Her mother is/was a stay at home mom. Which I wouldn’t knock her for it; until I seen their version of a stay at home mom. It wasn’t all that great to my eyes. (Granite I have never met a stay at home wife. I thought it was a mythical object. Due to the fact that I’ve never met anybody that could afford it.)
In my thoughts a stay at home wife is somebody that helps the other half with the other half of the responsiblities. Meaning the husband takes care of the income which provides the family with objects; such as food, housing, clothes, bills, luxuries, and etc.
So, therefore the wife would help with maintaining the house in a clean manner, the cooking of food, the managing/budgeting of bills. Pretty much household issues. Of course I assume the husband will mow the yard take the trash out fix things that he can fix and so on and so forth.
Back to the past things mentioned, my mother father in law would come home after a days of work. At the time my wife daughter and myself were visiting. My father in law asks “what’s for dinner?” My mother in law selfishly answers, “Today I haven’t done anything, I’ve been lazy all day and I do not feel like cooking. If you want to eat go and buy yourself something.” Oh I immediately got upset, because I know that not every women does not have the privilege of being a stay at home wife.
So, I jumped up and asked my father in law what was his appetite craving for that I would take care of cooking for him. Besides that point. I feel like my wife has a perspective of what a stay at home wife should be like. Which does not match with mine. I would love to spoil my wife with that luxury. Of her not having to work and her attending my most important priority, which is my daughter.
So in our discussion I asked her if “she’d like to be a stay at home wife?” which she of coarse answered “yes”. I expected that answer. Besides the point. I answered seed her what would her responsibilities consist of. Which she quickly said that she knew what her duties of.
She explained to me how she was not planing on waking up early because she does not like to wake up early. Which then I asked her about breakfast. That who would cook it? She responded that her husband had hands and that he could cook it himself. To me that is a relative trait of her mom. Which at one point she mentioned to me that she hated waking up early. So she wouldn’t cook breakfast for her husband.
I have nothing against cooking or doing things for myself. Though, that response rubbed me the wrong way. One it reminded me of her mom, which through the divorce that their going through she’s ripping him of a lot of things. Such as house kids and a large sum of money because she not once had to work in her life due to the fact that her husband took care of her in that fashion.
Two she mentioned how she wasn’t my slave. Which I never intended her to feel that way. I simply responded to her to then explain what she thinks her duties as a stay at home wife were. She said cooking taking care of the baby and cleaning the house. Managing the money and being happy. Which I agreed.hen she made another point that she doesn’t see this happening in the future and a tarter becoming negative about the scenario.
At the moment I am still a student. I am working towards our future. Which includes her becoming a stay at home wife. But if in her mind she thinks that she’s going to behave like her mom then things were not going to work out. She started explaining to me how she doesn’t want to rely on me due to money.
I understand that her family is going through a tough time and that I probably hurt her feelings by comparing her to her mom or comparing our relationship to her parents. I am not going to lie. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. So idk if it would be convientnant in the end.
Idk. Things are tough but a stay at home wife should at least take care of her husband like she expects her husband to take care of her. Currently in my eyes and with what I heard today I do not think my wife deserves to be a stay at home wife, because in the end she might divorce me after years of her being taken care of and in the end she will take everything plus the years that she luxuriously was a stay at home wife.
I know my words and paragraphs are jumpy and maybe my point is not clear. I am on a cellphone writing this. Life is crazy. Good luck on your desire to be a stay at home wife.