(Closed) Stay at home wife?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I work right now (and I’m not married) but I would love to be a Stay-At-Home Wife and eventually a Stay-At-Home Mom. I’ve always been kind of a natural mom and I love taking care of my family so I’ve always wanted to. But I would only do it if the situation was right. Fiance is wanting to join the military, so if he does and gets put on a base, I think that would be the perfect situation.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m a stay at home mom, my SO can support our family on his income.. and it’d cost more to put our 5 month old in daycare than I would make if I went back to my job. We also have a 4 year old that goes to preschool 2x a week, but it’d be way too expensive to put her and the baby in full time/ 5 days a week. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh wait, I just realized you are mostly talking about Stay-At-Home Wife. I dont think I’d ever want to be just a Stay-At-Home Wife if I didn’t have kids, I’d get way too bored!

Post # 7
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Newbee

Not to sound too snarky, but isn’t that just called being unemployed? And I’m absolutely not referring to stay-at-home parents which is completely different, but a stay-at-home wife???

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I just quit my job last week with DH’s blessing so I guess at the moment I’m a stay at home wife 🙂

I’m not going to lie it’s been pretty nice. I went to visit family right after I quit so there isn’t an established routine yet but I’d be lying if I didn’t say I enjoyed waking up casually yesterday, making Darling Husband breakfast before work and then heading to the store for groceries. I’m making dinner tonight too, the house is spotless and I feel very accomplished. I also sent out a few resumes today and had a lovely conversation with an events design company regarding a job. I realize this isn’t classic “SAHW” because it’s so new and won’t be forever but it’s pretty nice right now! I fully intend to go back to work 🙂

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m not quite sure what the role of a stay at home wife is?  

Or how one wouldn’t completely lose their mind trying to find things to do?

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@cora_123:  Okay this does sound amazing.  I’d imagine the first month would be awesomesauce.  Six months, a year in?  What then?  

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@october22:  I’d be a Stay-At-Home Mom in a heartbeat when we have kids and SO is all for it, if the money is right. But I’m with you on being a Stay-At-Home Wife, I think I’d be too bored! I’d need something to do so I’d probably find at least a part time job. Who doesn’t like a little extra income even if it’s not needed?

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Not exactly, the situation you’re talking about, but I have no kids and work from home, with my income being really variable month-to-month, as well as the time required by my job. So there are many, many hours a week when I am at home not working while Fiance is at work. Fiance has a full-time job that is very long hours six days a week, and so I spend my free time at home doing all the managing of the household.

Honestly, sometimes I feel a little bit bad that I am not contributing as much financially and that I’m not out in a full-time job. BUT then I remind myself how thankful Fiance is that I can get all the cleaning, cooking, errands, bills, etc. done and we can enjoy his time off without worrying about that. I try to structure my time with set things to do– like I have a schedule of which days every week I do which different tasks around the house, etc. I think of it as my job to make sure our house is clean, our fridge is stocked, and all the little things that need to be done are done. I don’t really see my situation changing because Fiance is in the military and we’ll be frequently moving for many years, which is not amenable to finding full-time jobs in my line of work. I’ve found that the main thing is to keep yourself busy so that YOU don’t feel lazy/unproductive. If you can get out an volunteer or something in the community, that is a good way to spend time also.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

As of last Friday I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom. Our kids are 3 and 6 and I’ve always wanted the opportunity to stay home wiht them. It’s not permanent, I will eventually go back to work, but am happy for the chance to be with them before they grow up.

 

I don’t think I could ever just be a Stay-At-Home Wife though. I’d get really bored!

 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@lunabella:  I completely agree! To me, stay at home wife is just an unemployed woman?? Of course, being a stay at home mom is totally different. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am one, kind of, not by choice and it’s nearly making me miserable! I’ve never wanted to be a stay at home mom/wife. It’s just not for me. I’ve worked hard to accomplsh my education and training and I don’t like feeling like I’m relying on him to take care of me. I even almost ressent taking on nearly all the house stuff, at times, by myself. But I should…that should be my job while I have no actual job to go to. It’s hard, and I’m not ashamed to admit I’m having a hard time with it. I’m looking every day for a job. But I live in rural south GA and it’s near impossible. I haven’t gotten one call back on jobs that are a perfect match for my skills. Everyone I talk to says it’s all in who you know. Ugh.

But my huband reassures me and I try reminding myself this is only temporary…

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Totally agree! Stay-At-Home Wife would be awesome for a few months but I think it’d get old. I went on maternity leave pretty early with my most recent daughter, and it was AMAZING for a few weeks, and then I started getting antsy and lazy. And even now with two kids there are days I’d definitely rather be at work 😉 I’m really appreciative to get to stay home and I feel lucky, but sometimes I miss uninterrupted adult conversations so much!

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