(Closed) Stay at home wife?

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 212
2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@stardustintheeyes:  in response to another comment of yours- it doesn’t effect me what strangers on the internet say about Stay-At-Home Wife. what’s pissing me off is that a bunch of bees are calling other bees lazy and worthless. that’s not ok. it’s fine if being a Stay-At-Home Wife is not the right choice for you but do not put down other bees for their choices. it’s rude and uncalled for. FWIW, i work full time and am not a Stay-At-Home Wife.


Post # 213
9820 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I can understand wanting to keep working with the potential of a future divorce and not knowing how to work at all.  Which is why I would only be a Stay-At-Home Wife if my husband was making lots and lots of money. Because then I would either get half of it (should we divorce) or if something were to happen we would have so much saved that I could work again and have $ to live on in the meantime.

Especially since my own salary would be so low in comparison it wouldn’t even be worth it.  Now this really depends on the job for me.  If I had a better paying job and loved it, I probably wouldn’t be a Stay-At-Home Wife.  If we’re talking about my current job, yeah I’d be a Stay-At-Home Wife.

So I wouldn’t be a Stay-At-Home Wife if my husband was making $100k a year, for example.  He’d have to be making minimum $200k or more (in our area).  And I would try to start a baking business out of my home!  Because I really love to do cakes, cheesecakes, and decorate cookies.  I actually like cleaning most of the time so I wouldn’t mind doing housework at all. 

Anyway, I don’t care what people do as long as they’re happy and are at least nice people.  If you’re a bitchy, snotty, spoiled housewife than yeah…I’d strongly dislike you.  For your personality.

Post # 214
6354 posts
Bee Keeper

@JaneyDcat:  Don’t be too quick to judge that either ๐Ÿ˜‰ Yes, many jobs have a lot of “seat warmer” time, but other jobs are paid, not based on hours worked, but based on the product provided (which has deadlines and regular hand-off points and progress discussions, but doesn’t require an hourly play-by-play or 9-5 schedule much of the time). Hence, one can usually set one’s own pace and even often work from home. “15 minutes real work, 15 minutes wedding bee!” can be a fun way to motivate oneself to get work done even when you feel like doing anything but.

Also, if you read/write for a living, you apparently do so hella fast compared to most people. I’m a speed-beer myself.

Post # 215
6040 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

@WhitBee:  I don’t think it’s a bad thing to not always have everyone be supportive. Sometimes those harsh opinions throw something interesting into the mix. No matter what, the best way to deal with it, IMO, is to let the rough stuff roll off your back ya know? As a working mom it is a challenging schedule to keep but I live a very full life in that I am happy in my career and feel accomplished as an individual but I also feel like I am present as a mother and partner which is important to me as well. So while some extra sleep would be nice, I have no complaints and am happy with my choices for myself. ๐Ÿ™‚ and yes, different strokes for different folks!

Post # 216
13563 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Hey all! It looks like we’re at a place where this conversation is concluding and we’re still getting flags on top of flags on top of flags. I’m thinking it’s time to agree to disagree on this topic and get on with our days — however you’re spending this particular Thursday. Thanks! ๐Ÿ™‚

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