(Closed) Stay at home wife?

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@MrsPanda99:  You don’t have to be wealthy to only have one income. You just have to be sensible and learn how to live within your means. 

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

A few ladies I know are stay at home wives now.  They used to work when they were younger, but in both cases their husbands ended up making enough for them to not work, so they don’t.  Neither sit around the house all day, and I would say only a small part of their time is spent “managing the home”.  One of the women paints quite a lot, and runs occasional workshops in her home.  Both women are able to spend lots of time with family (i.e., helping their parents with things like groceries and shopping, spending time with sick family members) and have a large network of friends who they spend time with regularly during the day.  

Personally, that life isn’t for me (I spent 5 years getting my degree and love my career), but I do believe it could be a very full and rewarding life.  To each their own.

Post # 35
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Bee Keeper

I could never be a stay at home anything. I need to go out into the world and socialize each day. Even when I stay home from work for a few days when I’m sick I go stir crazy and I get bored. Maybe now that I own my own home I will have tons more stuff to do in the house but I still couldnt live my life without working…plus where I live you need two incomes to survive as it is super expensive here

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Another stay-at-home wife here…I love it!  Now, I am a social scene photographer for a magazine, so I do “work.”  lol, I get paid to go to parties & events & photograph people there.  I also do photograph vintage jewelry for friend 1-2 days a week, so I do get out and about.  I have a degree in Biology, but being a career woman was not ever a high priority to me.

 

My husband is the CEO of a not-for-profit, so I love taking care of him & our house.  It gives me pride to take care of the laundry & making sure my husband’s shirts are pressed & that he comes home to a clean home.  My “job” is to support & help his career.  I use my graphic design & photography to help his agency.  I also use my many connections within the community as well.  My magazine job puts me in the mix of movers-and-shakers constantly, so I have a pretty extensive list of acquintances.  Currently, I’m setting up & promoting a fundraiser to benefit his agency.  I am very much the old school bosses wife, look pretty, charm donors, all the while working hard behind the scenes to help the agency…which is kind of weird to say at 32, lol!

 

My husband loves that I’m a stay-at-home wife as well, I think it gives men a certain pride.

 

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I personally know at least two SAHWs, one being my mother (who is getting divorced) and another is a friend of ours who was a Stay-At-Home Wife and no is a Stay-At-Home Mom.

I live in DFW, and when I used to work in sales and make house calls in more affluent areas, there was always a Stay-At-Home Wife or Stay-At-Home Mom there to greet me.

Post # 39
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@lampshade:  +1

I don’t think I would want to not work at all but I would love a part time job! Maybe even a three quarters one.

Post # 40
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@joya_aspera:  What an amazing answer!

Post # 41
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

DEFINITELY can’t afford that!  I’m working my ass off to save for kids and retirement.  I would never want to not work at all, but I would love to work part time and have part time to just play in the mountains, go to yoga, do crafts, clean and organize, garden, etc… sounds heavenly.

I wonder if some of these young SAHWs with husbands that don’t have really lucrative jobs have really thought through the costs of retirement and health care…

Post # 43
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

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@Steampunkbride: that’s a great point about how hard it was to run a household in the “olden days” and how it made perfect sense to have a full-time housemaker.  Imagine washing all the laundry in a tub with one of those scraper things, cooking over a coal stove, etc etc.  Yikes.

Post # 44
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d be a SATW if Fiance made a ridiculous amount of money (I’m not in a ridiculously high cost area, so around here at least $200k+).  I’d probably try and start baking out of my home though since that’s what I really like to do.  Yep, I’d totally do it.  I could catch up on my languages and I’d clean, cook all meals, have make sure everything was relaxing for Fiance when he came home.

I think there would be a point where if he was making so much money, I wouldn’t be contributing that much more with my much smaller income to justify staying at my job.  My job is ok, I don’t mind at all it but I don’t love love love it.

And if this were the case, we’d have some nice land and I’d love to grow tons of vegetables, have fruit trees, etc.  Fiance grew up on a farm so he wants so space I think.

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@JLR1982:  I tend to think this way too. No offense to anyone but, how do you not get bored? I just don’t get it. I would go insane & feel like I have little value and connect to the outside world. And also, what happens in case of a divorce, or hubby’s dead, or something else? 

Cooking, cleaning, gardening, laundry, calling doctors/maintenance & setting up appointments, buying presents, etc are still very much part of my repertoire with a full time job and are more than doable in the hours that I have available to me. 

Disclaimer: my statement does not apply to those Stay-At-Home Wife who:

  • Run arts & crafts kind of businesses (even it’s just more of a hobby)
  • Take care of an elderly person in their lives
  • Are on endless boards & participate 100% in their community (volunteering and what have you)
  • Cannot work due to medical reasons

Post # 46
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am a Stay-At-Home Wife.  Wouldn’t have it any other way.  I love it.  I run our household, cook, clean, run errands, etc. so when my husband comes home the two of us can spend time together.  I support him and his hard work so he feels very appreciated when he comes home.  He is my king!

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