(Closed) Stay at home wife?

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think it is absolutely lazy. I have no want for this and no respect for someone who does. What do you do with yourself? Shop, lunch? What? How boring. Life is not meant for sitting on your arse & letting someone else do all the work. At least try to contribute. No vacuuming and cooking is not work. 

Stay-At-Home Mom totally different. When I have kids I hope to spend at least their first year or so home with them, looking after them before going part time for my own sanity.

Edit: women who are on sick leave, looking after a sick relative, volunteers etc are not what I consider ‘housewives’ they are absolutely contributing. 

Post # 49
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

We could definitely live off my DH’s salary but we have a standard of living that we don’t want to change. I also would feel guilty staying at home and pursuing my hobbies while DH works! I just can’t imagine anyone really likes working *that * much that they have no feelings of jealousy harbored towards the one who stays home.

Sure I like my job but I would certainly enjoy the freedom to come and go as I please and to just not work when I don’t feel like it. If I were to work less hours than DH I would spend that time doing something for us as opposed to pursuing my own interests. 

Post # 50
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Buzzing bee

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@FauxBoho:  +1

I personally would be so freaking bored. I would also feel so guilty living 100% on my husband’s money; marriage should be 50/50!

Post # 51
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Bee Keeper

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@joya_aspera:  So true. 

 

A lot of people are jumping on their high horses here, and in reality– you have no idea why someone does what they do, and why does anyone care what someone else and their spouse decide to do for their household?

It reeks of laziness? So what– it is no reflection on you! You would rather work? Great, just because you  cannot imagine your life without your beloved job, doesn’t mean it holds the same place in someone else’s life. 

People here get so judgey about this topic, and it is seriously a dumb thing to get all bent out of shape over. If you love to work, then work. If your DH makes enough to where you don’t need to work and you BOTH decide that you’d rather be taking care of the home, then do it. 

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I actually just got put on extended medical leave (6 weeks as of now, but I have to get surgery so I’ll be lucky if I get back to work this year), but luckily DH has a good job with the city. We’ll be nickel and diming everything, but we’ll make it. I’m doing some freelance writing for extra cash as well as a few other online part time side jobs. He said not to worry about it, but I can’t help it.

He also told me not to worry about cleaning since I’m in a knee immoblizer and on crutches, but he can’t stop me, LOL! I’m actually hoping it works out with me staying home because even after surgery, I won’t be able to stand for long periods of time. My current job is also minimum wage at a fast food place, so I’m not too hurt. 😉

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@shutterbugKELLY:  With respect though, you aren’t a stay at home wife in the traditional understanding of the term. You have an interesting job that allows you to work at times that suit you. The stay at home wife, in the way I think the OP means, does not have any outside work-related diversions.

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee

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@PacificMrs:  Totally not the same, you shouldn’t worry! You need to focus on getting better! Sending good thoughts your way.

Post # 55
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Mrs_Amanda: +1

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m a stay at home parent, and honestly, there aren’t many here where I live in New England, I’d assume because of the cost of living.  Where I’m from in the midwest, it’s much more common to find stay at home wives and moms, simply because you can easily live on $50k a year comfortably.  There’s no way you can live on that here.  Heck, you can’t live well on twice that here.

Post # 57
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@MrsPanda99:  I do know someone like that though, my Future Mother-In-Law. Whenever I hear her ask her hubby for $$, and he jokes about her spending all his $$…I cringe. ( I realize not everyone is like this). 

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have the best of both worlds being a teacher. I have a career and income but I am a Stay-At-Home Wife in the summer months. Honestly my days are pretty jam packed with gardening, cooking, cleaning, helping my husband run his business, etc. I don’t know how I’ll fit work in when fall rolls around. But alas, I will. I always do. The lack of mental stimulation and my own life separate from my home/husband does start to get boring after a few months.

Post # 59
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@Mrs_Amanda:  +a million!

 

A lot of people that are saying housewives are lazy or that they must be bored are the people who pay someone else to come take care of their house for them.

People get a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment from different things. For my husband, it’s his job. For me, it’s taking care of my home. I get so freaking excited when I finish a deep clean in my bathroom. I enjoy housework. And this is why we are working towards the goal of having me stay at home.

Post # 60
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@stuckinwonderland:  Funny you should say that. We live in Minnesota and our plan is that when DH gets to $50k, I work for six more months (100% of my money going into savings) and then leave my job. 

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