(Closed) Stay at home wife?

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 77
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6574 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsPanda99:  Mmhm, yup, I know one. No kids. Not sure what she does to occupy herself, honestly.

Post # 79
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6036 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

I have a friend who doesn’t drive, doesn’t work (but has a degree) and who wants nothing more but to cook and clean and take care of her guy. this is how it has worked for the past 4 years. She was happy, he was taken care of and then one day out of the blue he comes home and tells her that he wants a divorce. No explanation no warning just like that she has to come back from being a Stay-At-Home Wife to being someone who works. She has struggled like crazy. This is why I wouldn’t want to be a Stay-At-Home Wife. Sure I would love to be able to run my own schedule and just take care of my home with no other responsibilities. But I was raised to always make sure I could stand on my own two feet, and to be honest, it would really freak me out to depend on someone else to take care of me. Especially with children. I was lucky in that when my son was born I was able to stay at home for the first year and Fiance worked and supported us and even after that I had family to watch him (daycares scare me) when I did go to work. I couldn’t live a life where I invested all of myself and my own worth in someone else. Even if that someone else was my  husband. My life doesn’t end because I have a husband or a child. My priorities may change, but I think it’s highly irresponsible and not wise at all to put your survival (financial and otherwise) into someone else’s hands. Things can change in the blink of an eye and I like knowing that if all that was left was me to hold things down, I could do it starting tomorrow. If Fiance decided at some point that he was just done and left me, I would easily be able to take care of me and my son and I would be able to do it without his income or help.  I wouldn’t be ok without having that kind of insurance. Having that is worth far more to me than being able to stay at home.

By The Way, I work hours that allow me to still be home for all but one hour of when my son is out of school, so I miss nothing when it comes to my child. I still cook dinner, clean, and do all the things I would do as a SAH wifemom. Sure I don’t get as much “free time” but im ok with that.

But… To each thier own I guess…

Post # 82
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8036 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

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@starfish0116:  You sound like you’ve figured out a great work/life balance!! I may end up doing something similar to you in the future ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 83
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8683 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@FauxBoho:  +1

Also, I believe the OP was about SAHWs and NOT SAHMs.

Post # 84
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Many people on here are making assumptions on people’s financial situations.  Just because the husband has a desk job and the wife doesn’t does not mean she asks him for money.  And even if so, it’s none of your beeswax.

Post # 85
Hostess
8146 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Okay Ladies, I’m going to remind you that there are Stay at Home Wive’s on this site and some things you are posting are very judgemental. We have no idea why one chooses to be a Stay-At-Home Wife, and thats between them and their spouses. We have opinions, but I please don’t criticize one’s choices (i.e.- Calling them lazy or entitled).

Just because it’s not for you, doesn’t mean it isn’t perfectly acceptable. Stay-At-Home Wife was the way of the world in the past, and women were proud to be Homemakers and Housewives, and the men in their lives were proud of them as well.

Post # 87
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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@starfish0116:  I don’t think this applies to you since you do work and have an income. I think this is more about those who don’t have an income of their own and do nothing other than housework.

Post # 89
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@FreckledFox:  +100000 xo

Post # 90
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

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@MrsPanda99:  

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@stardustintheeyes:  

Yup, the guy leaving happens a lot. Happened to my mom, in fact. She was a Stay-At-Home Mom, but still had the same effect… she had to struggle for years to keep us kids fed. Had she worked, she wouldn’t still be struggling even today. It’s hard to know what to do. When it works, it works.. but I personally would not like to take the chance unless I was guaranteed hundreds of thousands of dollars if things went sour… which is no guarentee, especially if he left after only a few years.

Post # 91
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@FreckledFox:  thank you 

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