(Closed) Stay at home wife?

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
Post # 107
272 posts
Helper bee

For the past two years I have been in my crazy 18units/semester graduate school, I worked 20 hr/wk.  I didn’t have to since my (now) Fiance wanted for me to focus 100% on school.  However, I learned at very early age, money can be gone at a blink of an eye.  Since I was growing up, my family or I ever thought that I will work a day in my life.  However, things changed during my teen years and I had to work before I turned 18 and have not stopped.  I plan and see myself working even after I retire.  

I plan to work full-time until I’m ready for my maternity leave.  Then I’ll get a per diem (4 days/mo).  After our kids get into school, I’ll work 20hr/wk or more. Whatever I make will spend towards our retirement/leisure.  

Nothing is certain in life.  Although we both have well-planned/investing in our retirement (not so well since economy is bad), I don’t want to rely on him 100%.  I’ve experienced myself and seen it around.  Especially for women, it is really hard to get back into the “working” world after leaving it for awhile.  

Post # 108
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am fortunate enough where Fiance has a well-paying, secure job as well. I am in grad school now so I must definitely will work! If/when I do get pregnant in the years after the wedding, then I will cease working.

Post # 109
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Life certainly seemed easier when I was a student last year – I did have my own things that kept me occupied and a small income but I felt that I was able to be a much better girlfriend. I find it very challenging now to work as many hours as I do (school teachers work much longer than 9-3) and still feel like I am contributing in the way I want to. My SO and I do believe in a more traditional lifestyle and part of me is looking forward to having children so that I can become the mother and wife that I want to be. I know I need to work right now, both to achieve my professional accreditation and also to create a financial environment where we are able to achieve our goal of a 1-income household with little stress.

Post # 110
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would totally do this if it was an option for me. The volunteering would be great. You do something you feel good about because you want to, not because you’re making money for it. I’d say go for what makes you happy!

Post # 111
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you should do what makes you happiest, but I do agree with the posters who have said that we should always prepare for the worst. Since you are just graduating, I’m assuming you don’t have much experience in your field. I would consider working for a couple years to at least gain some experience so that if something were to ever happen, you at least have an established career to fall back on.


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