Post # 1

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Helper bee
As some of you might have seen from my last post, I received an offer to start a new job less than two months before my wedding. I feel like there should be a clear decision here, but I’m torn due to the circumstances. I’ve been in my first role out of college for almost two years now. I wasn’t looking due to the upcoming wedding, but the job fell into my lap.
Current Job Pros
- Fairly consistent 40 hours a week – overtime occasional
- Office is 10 minutes away from my house
- Pretty laid back – I’m able to go to the gym during lunch, come and go for appointments without a problem, etc.
- 100% covered health insurance premiums and deductibles
- Over 100 hours of PTO built up to cover wedding/honeymoon
- Rarely stressed / don’t take work home with me
- Pay is in line with (or slightly above) industry norms
- Pretty good manager and coworkers
Current Job Cons
- Although the boss isn’t here frequently, he’s volatile and puts everyone on edge
- Although it hasn’t happened recently, boss has said and done inappropriate things in the past
- Manager and I differ politically, and he insists on lecturing me about it every day
- No development – work is slow and hasn’t evolved since I started, no tuition reimbursement, etc.
- No consistent raises – I got one once, but that was to put me above the overtime law that we thought was going to pass at the time
- Small business with less than 30 people
- No room for advancement – I’m basically in this role until my 60 year old manager retires (and then I’d have to report directly to the boss)
- We don’t qualify for FMLA, so I have no clue how they’d accommodate me when I eventually become pregnant in a few years
New Job Pros
- Bigger company that belongs to one of the fastest growing Fortune 100 conglomerates
- Room for me to grow and/or functionally move around
- Pays 20% more than what I currently make (although it’s closer to 15% once you consider health and commute costs)
- Standard benefits you can expect with a large company – tuition reimbursement, covered STD and life insurance, stock options, etc.
- Several locations, including one in a city that I anticipate Fiance will need to relocate to in a couple of years
- Women-led management team that seems preferable to what I currently have (although I can’t know for sure)
- Slightly more PTO and sick days
- On-site gym and restaurant
New Job Cons
- I was told hours average between 40-50 a week, which is more than I’m used to
- 40 minute commute (although I had a worse commute for a full-time internship a few years ago)
- I will still profit, but I’m looking at around $1500 in new health expenses and $2600 in tolls
- They readily admit they still need to develop processes for storing their information and getting things accomplished
- I’d have to take my 2.5 week wedding/honeymoon unpaid and will basically be without PTO until January at the earliest
- PTO doesn’t roll over, so I will lose anything that I don’t use each year
401(k) match is essentially the same for both. It is unlikely I will get another offer that matches this base salary. What would you do in my shoes?
Post # 2

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Bumble bee
Wow, your current job seems EXTREMELY similar to mine at the moment and I also am 2 years in. Small office, hardly any overtime, very laid back, etc..I think if I were you I would take the new job unless it’s really going to kill you taking the 2.5 weeks unpaid.
Post # 3

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Bumble bee
harmonicsoul : That’s a tough decision, but I think utlimately you should go with this new offer. You’re stuck at your current job in terms of pay and promotion, and this company seems to fit well with the future you’re looking towards. It stinks that you’d have to take your wedding off unpaid, but a 15% pay increase will definitely help ease that problem, and it’s the only truly major problem I see with accepting that position.
I hope everything works out for you, whichever job you go with. Best of luck!
Post # 4

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Honey bee
I read your other thread, and I really think you should go for the new job. It seems like a good opportunity for growth, and you can relocate when you need to, and you can’t discount the serendipity of them reaching out to you!
Post # 5

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Busy bee
harmonicsoul : I voted to take the new role because it is so easy to become complacent when you are not challenged with career development/goals, etc.
Now… If you just want an easy job with no growth, obviously you should stay where you are. Some people are happier being in a comfortable and familiar environment.
Let us know what you decide and congrats!
Post # 6

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Busy bee
Is the new health expenses and toll costs you listed per year?
If that’s the case I feel like the 20% increase will offset the other $ related cons and just make sure you use up your PTO each year 🙂
my vote is for the new offer!
Post # 7

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Bumble bee
New job. Focus on the long term.
Post # 8

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Helper bee
tobeornottobe7 : Yes, sorry, that was how much they’d cost a year.
Thank you everyone for your comments so far! Seeing such a clear winner in the polls and comments is helping ease my concerns.
ETA: I checked about the other locations, and I misread. Without giving it away too much, they have plenty of locations, but the only corporate location is where I currently am. So that takes away the potential to relocate with the company when we need to move for Fiance. But all the other pros remain.
Post # 10

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Helper bee
southernbride16 : Well, before background check I had to verbally accept the position. I assumed I’d still have to sign something to officially confirm, but I found out today that I passed background and they called to settle on a start date. So I suppose I accepted by default! Lol. It seems like the right decision regardless, but I am a little weirded out that they don’t have anything for me to sign.
I suppose I’ll put in my two weeks’ notice tomorrow, which is terrible timing (we’re in Florida). But I don’t have much of a choice. Hopefully my employer will be understanding.
Post # 11

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Buzzing bee
harmonicsoul : Hon you gotta do what you gotta do and besides I’m thinking your boss might be a lil distracted anyways. Stay safe okay?
Post # 12

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Helper bee
sablescorpion22 : Thank you! I’m a Florida native so this isn’t my first rodeo, but it’s definitely a bigger storm than any of us are used to.
Post # 13

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Busy bee
harmonicsoul : Thanks for the update and congrats on your new position!
Be safe!!!!
Post # 14

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Bumble bee
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
How about take the job but negotiate a late start date after your wedding/honeymoon? That way you will be all set to handle more work without all the wedding stress to worry about. And it will be something new and exciting 🙂
Post # 15

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Helper bee
akshali2000 : I would have loved to, but they need someone ASAP and wouldn’t be able to wait until mid-November.