(Closed) Stay out of my sex life! *RANT*

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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1691 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

WOW…whether they mean well or not, it’s totally inappropriate.  Your sex life is private.  Unless you decide to divulge the details they should stay out of it.  Not very professional at all.

Post # 4
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1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

🙁 I don’t know what to say! That would suck! I certainly wouldn’t want someone judging what I did with my Darling Husband behind closed doors. Is there anyway you can let them know that discussing your sex life is off the table and it makes you feel uncomfortable? Is there a way for you to talk to Human Resources and let them know that this is not okay with you? 

Hugs! Don’t feel ashamed of what feels right to you! 

Post # 6
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46414 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think your co-workers reaction is perfectly normal. Whe you see a women with bruises that could not happen accidentally- like banging your shins on a table- it is only natural to be worred about how she was injured.

Thank goodness there are people in your workplace who care about you to notice the bruise and  a boss who cares enough about you to bring up the subject of possible abuse.

I don’t think they are even thinking of your sex life, much less judging it. They were worried that you are being abused.

Post # 8
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1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@allyfally:  I agree with @julies1949:  that it’s nice to have conscientious and caring co-workers and superiors.  However, any conversations about your sex life should be off limits. 

I would get guidance from HR on how to let your co-workers know you won’t tolerate them discussing your sex life.  Any further discussions (or open speculations) about it is considered sexual harrassment. 

Post # 9
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@allyfally:  I’m confused as to why you shared when you lost your virginity.  You opened the doors to your sex life.  And I have to say I doubt that you didn’t at least imply that the bruise was the result of sex.  If you don’t want them involved, YOU need to stop the communication about it.

Post # 10
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1901 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think its nice they care. And honestly, most abused women deny that their significant others are the ones that caused whatever injury. So, I can see the concern on their part.  

Post # 11
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would stop talking about sex at all. There’s no reason why they should have known you were a virgin, and there’s no reason they should know you started having sex. The next time it comes up you need to say “Sorry guys, I’m no longer comfortable talking about this subject” and then change the subject.

Post # 12
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Personally even if I was close with coworkers I wouldn’t be telling them details about my sex life with them its so unprofessional on ever level. If they say a bruise and expressed concerned as they should. I would explain it isn’t an issues and let it go. Tell them your sex life isn’t up for discussion.

Post # 13
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

They are being a little intrusive but you opened the line of communication by telling them about your sex life in the first place. If I were in this situation, as your coworker, I would have thought it was totally ok to keep talking about it once it was brought up in such detail.

Post # 14
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414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Im sorry, maybe I just don’t understand your work dynamic but this is why you should keep your private life private. Why did they know you were a virgin to begin with? Why do they know you aren’t now? Why are you allowing them to make comments?

And good concealer can cover a hickey, ask someone at a makeup counter. They will give you a color corrector and concealer. For future refrence. Wink

Post # 15
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1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Keep your personal life and your work life separate.  I can’t even fathom this.

Post # 16
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5428 posts
Bee Keeper

Just one word… makeup…

Then no more questions, stares, or anything. Your life is YOUR life, and a lot of people just puts their noses where it doesn’t belong, and you can’t stop that, nor can you pinch their noses when you really want to….LOL

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