(Closed) Stay with Him or Leave? Conflicting Views

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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kanlink:  

“Right now I am in a good place. If he leaves, he leaves there is nothing I can do but move on and my trust in him after this is questionable.”

You have already left this relationship and it sounds as if he did too.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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kanlink:  I sent you a PM 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

 

When you have to turn to strangers on the internet to decide the fate of your marriage….I think you know what your decision is OR you need to think about speak to a professional.

 

There’s a whole lot going with both you and your husband and with you as a couple. I think a professional might really help you sort through it and either make a decision or offer coping mechanisms moving forward.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

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kanlink:  

<– Team fightformymarriage 

I also agree with not making big non-medical decisions during a depressed state. Seek treatment and get healthy. Then make adjustments as needed.

Best wishes, Bee!

 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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kanlink:  I think a great way to get on the same page of communication is by understanding each other’s love language (http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/), apology language (http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/apology/), and appreciation language (http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/appreciation/).  There’s also one on the site for anger assessment.

My Fiance and I took these tests and it really opened our eyes and made us more aware and conscious of how the other person perceives or responds to certain things.  For example, you may express your love a certain way, but he feels more loved a different way than what you think.  Or for example, he perceives apologies to be a certain way, but your may take an apology a different way.  

It’s super helpful to be aware of how the other person takes things and I think it will help you both in your communication.  

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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kanlink:  I am sure someone has already suggested this to you, but would it be worth you and your husband seeking professional advice. Find a way to communicate better with each other together? Sorry to hear you are in this sucky situation bee. x

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