(Closed) Staying in a hotel room with DH and my mom…. weird??

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sorry but I think this is totally awkward and not really appropriate. Just spring for the extra room.  (Unless the room you guys have is a suit with two separate bedroom and bathroom areas!)

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My fiance and I shared a room with my Mom and stepfather for 5 days this past Spring. I’ve shared rooms with my ex, my Mom, and his Mom before as well. I don’t think it’s weird. We just made sure to have pajamas that were comfortable to wear around everyone.

You can tell your Mom you will get a room with two beds for the three of you. Explain that you don’t really have the money for two rooms, but if she is more comfortable with getting her own room, you wouldn’t be offended.

As long as no one is having sex or sleeping naked, I don’t see the problem with it.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think it’s inappropriate, but I would ask your mom if she would be uncomfortable.

My Fiance (then boyfriend) and I took my 72 year old grandmother tent camping last fall. We shared one large tent instead of taking two separate tents. My grandma had no problem, but had she expressed concern we would have brought two tents instead of one.

 

 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

“As long as no one is having sex or sleeping naked, I don’t see the problem with it”

 

Ditto. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

eh there’s nothing wrong with that. I second the comment that as long as no one is having sex then it’s totally fine

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Personally I wouldn’t want to, but to each their own. Maybe double check with your Darling Husband and then ask your mom what she prefers. Depending on where you’re going, maybe you can find accommodations like a cottage/b & b with 2 rooms? Or a hotel suite as opposed to 2 separate rooms.  

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

“As long as no one is having sex or sleeping naked, I don’t see the problem with it”

Agreed!!

Like you mentioned, check with her to make sure she’s ok with it.  Obviously it’s not something you’d want to spring on someone.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

To me, I wouldn’t feel awkward sharing a room with Mother-In-Law or my mom and Darling Husband.  We definitely would not have sex, so there wouldn’t be an issue.  Plus, my mom and Mother-In-Law are not uncomfortable in their pajamas around Darling Husband.  HOWEVER, it would just be really inconvenient for us to share a room with either one of them.  My mom goes to bed around 8 PM, lol!  Maybe not that early, but I’ve shared hotel rooms with her before and she wants everyone to be laying down with the TV practically off by 9 PM at the latest.  You can’t leave and re-enter the room without her getting mad or talk or laugh.  So, that’d be out.  Mother-In-Law can’t sleep with her TV off, so I would not be able to sleep with her in the same room.  You just have to think about how the cons weigh out the pros of sharing a room and make a decision from there.  You can always check Expedia and Hotels.com to look for a one-bedroom suite.  There will generally be a living room with full-size couch bed and a separate bedroom. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think there is anything intrinsically weird about it, it just depends on how everyone feels.  If your mom would feel awkward, then I don’t think it is a good idea.  I would feel really awkward sharing a room with my in-laws. 

 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am an expert on this!!. Get a room with a sofa sleeper and a “separate bedroom” with a door so you will have some privacy or opt for a cheaper hotel and get two rooms. I’ve stayed at like Candlewood Suites, Countryn Inn & Suites, and a Super 8 had those rooms. Im pretty sure they are called One bedroom suites. Call first though to make sure they have the separate sleeping room. Plus these rooms all had kitchens in them in Jacksonville and Wilmington NC it was approx 120$ a night. Hope this helps! 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We do this often and it’s no big deal.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t know what your relationship is like with your mom and what your DH’s relationship with her is like, but in my case, I would be fine with it. She treats him like a son of hers. 

If your mom is feeling awkward about it, then you probably should put her in a seperate room. If everyone is okay with it, then go ahead and do it!

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