(Closed) Staying motivated/keeping busy during the day…

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Sorry you’re feeling bummed. I think this is a common feeling for anyone who is not working or in school during the day.

How about getting up with your husband in the morning and showering right away. Get ready and go to the store. Even if it is just to pick up milk or an ingredient for dinner. 

At least that way when  you get home you will be a bit more energized and even if you decide to lounge for the rest of the day you wont feel guilty. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

You may be doing this already, but showering/putting on real clothes always helps me get going. Wearing a robe until 10am usually means my entire day is shot.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I work from home a lot, so I have to make sure I stay motivated and don’t get lazy since I’m supposed to be working.  Like the PPs said, getting up early, showering right away, getting dressed right after, making breakfast right after that, etc helps me stay in a “workday” routine.  I know you aren’t “working” right now but you’re still a Stay-At-Home Wife which can be a job in itself.  Find a routine that forces you to be ready to go by mid-morning.  Get your chores out of the way before lunch if possible.  That way even if you do jump on the Bee after lunch and spend a few hours watching TV or perusing the internet, at least you still feel like you had a productive day.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think any time you move to a new city where you don’t know anyone, it’s totally normal to go through a lonely period. One of my best friends moved back to her home state after living in NYC for 10 years and even though she had a full time job and was getting her MBA at night AND still had high school friends, etc. she was SUPER lonely and depressed for about the first year. And when I first moved to NYC right after college, that was definitely the lonliest time of my life – even though I had friends here.

The problem is you aren’t in anyone’s regular rotation of friends, you might get invited to a one off party or happy hour, but you don’t have anyone to call up on a whim and go shopping, no guaranteed weekend plans.

The best advice I can give is to try and get involved, even if it means volunteering somewhere, and give it time. It takes time to establish a network of friends and a busy schedule. Keep going on job interviews, but if things aren’t panning out then definitely look into volunteer opportunities.

Also, in the meanwhile while you’re at home try and make a daily or weekly schedule. If you write down what needs to be accomplished and have a deadline for each item, that will give your days a little more structure and purpose. On the weekends, I used to walk around and explore my neighborhood a lot which was fun and today I still look back on that time in my life and remember discoveries I made and things I learned.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I go through a rut stage every winter, I guess the cold weather doesn’t help. I hibernate during the winter time. But what I have find that helps me is when I get home, I change from my work clothes to something more comfy and I go bake and try out new baking ideas. That get’s my juices going. Do you have a favorite hobby or activities that you can do around the house. I love to crochet also but I like to do that at night while chiling in front of the tv. Hope this helps a bit.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I know you mentioned you take riding lessons, but are there any other hobbies/sports outside of the house that you could do? What about working out or doing yoga? You might meet some new friends at a gym or yoga studio that way. Or look for things like art classes, cooking classes, etc. where you get out of the house while also doing something social.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@KatNYC2011: Yumm, I’ve never made those, let me know how they turn out!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Is there anywhere you could do some volunteering? That might help you get out a bit during the day and give you some social interaction.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was unemployed a few years ago, and I felt the same way.  It was depressing to not have a purpose to your day. My recommendations would be to have a schedule, and to see if there’s anything you can do consistently;  exercise, volunteering, cleaning, etc.  Or, are you interested in getting a pet?  While you’re home and not busy would be a fantastic time for a puppy. 

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