(Closed) STD And Invitation Addressing Etiquette…….

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
13010 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If the children are older than 18, they should receive their own invitation.  If they’re younger than 18, I think you can address it to “The Smith Family”

Post # 3
612 posts
Busy bee

i would say “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and Family” if the family is included, or “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith” if they aren’t.

I think “The Smith Family” is ok for Save-The-Date Cards. Less formal.

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  texaslemon.
Post # 4
1915 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

Ckasnoff:  I did this for Save-The-Date Cards, not for invitations though.

Post # 6
612 posts
Busy bee

Ckasnoff:  I kind of did it depending on the family. some of them i addressed the 18 yr olds as included in the “and family”, some of them I gave them their own. Kinda have to feel it out depending on who it is. I don’t think anyone would care if you said “and family” unless they are super formal and would scoff at that type of thing.

That said, most of the 18+ I know are in college or moved out. If they were in college, I grouped them in with the family. They don’t need a wedding invite sent to their dorm room lol.


All of my formal invites will be addressed as “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and Family” or “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and Sons” (if they only have sons…this is how my Mother-In-Law wanted it….) or “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith”- we aren’t inviting kids, though, so everyone is 18+ except for one or two of my FI’s cousins who my Mother-In-Law is insisting we invite. Whateverrrrr.

Post # 7
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014


Ckasnoff:  I did it for both Save-The-Date Cards and invites but I never really read up on all of the rules haha!

Post # 8
1274 posts
Bumble bee

We addressed save the dates pretty casually, Joe, Jane and baby Smith. I was going to put ‘and family’ for some of them, but there are a few complicated relationships/blended families on our list, so we spelt it out for our guests so they knew from the get go who was invited. We are also doing a destination wedding, so it just made sense that people would know they had a plus one/guest from the beginning. 

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