(Closed) STD and invite ettquette

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
678 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB

My wedding is in September. I sent my STD outs in January. I think I may have sent them out too early. But i was so dang excited. My invites will go out the first of June.

Post # 3
3276 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Save-The-Date Cards anywhere from 8-12 months in advance, invites 6wks – 2months in advance

Post # 4
982 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014


SaugaBride:  It depends on your wedding.  If it’s a Destination Wedding then you send everything retty early since there is so much planning required on your guests’ ends.  Mine’s a “partial” Destination Wedding – meaning everyone on Mr. S’s side of the list is from out of state, my people are all local.  Because of that, we sent the Save-The-Date Cards in November (I could have waited a month but I didn’t want them to get lost in the holiday card rush in December) and then invites earlier this month for a July 11 wedding. 

The invite date also has a bit to do with when your headcount is due to the venue and caterer.  My venue wants my headcount pretty dang early so the RSVP deadline is 5 1/2 weeks before the wedding to allow me a cushion if I need to track any down before I turn the numbers over.  So, I sent my invites with a good 7 weeks to go before the RSVP deadline for all those out of towners.  Even that is a bit early but my mom was getting antsy and pushing me to mail them since they were all done, so I did.  🙂

Post # 5
728 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

That’s a terrible acronym lol I didn’t send out save the dates but made sure we sent invites out 12 weeks before the wedding. Which is like, today.

Post # 6
1643 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

SaugaBride:  generally you send Save-The-Date Cards asap (up to a year before probably) then invites 6-8 weeks before; depending on when your venue wants final numbers. Ours wants final numbers 2 weeks before (which will be Christmas!) so we’ll be sending ours earlier rather than later

Post # 7
4043 posts
Honey bee

I would do the Save-The-Date Cards up to a year out. We did 10 months out, for each daughter, and included the wedding website on it. The information was pretty complete, i.e. we had set-up room blocks, but they didn’t include registry information, until the shower invitations were mailed.

Invitations are a bit more difficult to pinpoint. Some etiquette mavens insist 6-8 weeks out is some kind of hard and fast rule. But room blocks expire sometimes way before that; i.e. my nephew’s 7/12 wedding has a room block expiration of 5/9, so he mailed his invites out around April 1st. Although most of the inofrmation is already on a wedding wbsite, you can’t depend on everyone to look at it, before hand.

Post # 8
2943 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I know there have been a lot of responses saying 2 months to 6 weeks, but typically a lot of wedding checklist have 3-2 months.  A lot of venues/caters/bakers require numbers a month out, and you want to give people enough time to respond.  I think you can calculate when invites need to be out by setting your RSVP, so going backwards;

The wedding date is May 31st, you need numbers to the venue a month a head of time (May 1st) so you set your RSVP date for April 25th so you have time to follow up for missing RSVPS.  Give people a month to make arangements after geting their invites (because even after out sending save the dates, people won’t make travel arangments until you send invites), so you would want invites in thier hands by March 25th.  Allow a week from when you send to when people will get it, so it would be best to have sent by March 17th.  

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