Post # 1
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
So I thought I should share my somewhat funny experience with Save the Dates. I was not originally going to send them but then I thought since we are having a Friday wedding that maybe I should to give a heads up. Well, I found out that Save the Dates are not a normal thing and considered a novelty in my parents generation haha (babyboomers). So I have had some cousins send us messages on our wedsite and received some emails saying to expect to see them there and how innovative this was haha. I have found it a funny experience anyway! Anyone else have somewhat of a similar experience?
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
Like everyone thought it was the actual invitation?
If that’s what you mean, yes, this has happened to me! Most of FI’s family didn’t know the difference between a STD and an invitation. His sister was even rude enough to take a photo of the STD and post it on facebook saying that she received her invitation…that got a lot of people fired up because “they never got an invitation”. LOL.
Post # 3
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Busy bee
Lots of people thought our save the dates were the invitation! We are having a destination wedding so I’m glad we did them, but I wish there was a way to really explicitly state “no, our real invitation was not sent out a year before the event, and it’s a little nicer than a photo magnet!”
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
boogiewoogies: Oh noooo! That’s horrible! Maybe she was just clueless? I have seen people write “just got something special in the mail today” on someone’s wall who is obviously getting married. Awkward all arund. Haha oh I bet you handled it like a champ though!
Dialysate: Yes, same! I didn’t include the line “invitations to follow” and I wish I had! At least it gives you an idea of around how many people early enough on!
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
I put a little message at the bottom of my save the date that stated ‘formal invitation to follow’ so that there wouldn’t be any confusion.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
Our STD was not confusing at all. It was a couple of photos, huge “save the date” with “invitation to follow” and our names, date and location. Not even the venue or time was listed, just the name of the town since it’s a semi-DW.
I had a lot of people ask me why they weren’t invited to my wedding because of FSIL’s Facebook post. I was pretty upset but I didn’t deal with it, Fiance did. His sister actually got mad at us for having a problem with it and his mom told us we “should have written a note on the STD telling people not to post pictures of it on Facebook” and when we told her that was ridiculous, she told us, “well, you should have put a note on just your sister’s then.” I had a genuine bridezilla meltdown right after that, haha.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
We got some RSVPs off of our save the dates – even though “Formal Invitation to Follow” was all up over the bottom. No venue, no time, whatever.
We sent them to FI’s family in Ireland even though they aren’t typically done over there because his brother is getting married before us and THEY said they were sending save the dates, but they didn’t, so we send them and the confusion was wild. So now we’re sending invitations in a few weeks and I know that will also be confusing perhaps for those who have already RSVP’ed no – but we can’t NOT send them you know?
Woah though about people putting it on facebook – that shouldn’t be surprising though, some people can’t go two minutes without posting something online.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
laceydoilies: Oh yes. Most of Mr. S’s friends were calling him up with “These are the coolest wedding invitations ever!” and a friend of mine sent a group FB message with a photo of his saying the same thing (luckily he was smart and only added people he knew got them also). I just laughed. Not invitations, people! We sent ours because it’s a Friday wedding and the majority of our guest list is out of state.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
Yes! To be honest I never heard of a STD before weddingbee. After I sent them all out I started to recieve questions about where I was registered (I’m not having a bridal party or anything like that) and asking where the wedding was going to be. Even though we had it all on the wedding website (which no one really went to lol) and it said formal invitation to follow on the STD. I think it’s because most of the people invited are family and a lot older (60’s and 70’s) I had to let them know it’s NOT an invitation but you all will get a formal inviation soon. Still cute though.
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
We actually didn’t send out Save-The-Date Cards because we didn’t want to deal with the confusion of people thinking they were the actual invitation haha. It seems to be a pretty common issue 😉
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
Didn’t happen to me. My Save-The-Date Cards were just simple postcards though. they definitely didn’t look like a wedding invitation
