(Closed) STD Received, Know I can't make it, tell them now or wait for invite?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Tell them now, but only if you’re OK with not bugging them with a “suprise, now we can make it” like PPs mentioned. That would be a major headache to me.

I granted plus ones to a few people in new relationships who asked for them after sending out STDs. In the last few months, I’ve dealt with “oh no we broke up!”  “just kidding we got back together!” from them.  From relatives, we’ve gotten “oh we rescheduled our trip aound your wedding!” then  “just kidding we might go abroad during your wedding weekend after all!”

I want to tell everyone to spare me the details and just fill it out on their damn RSVP card. And stick to that.

Post # 17
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11515 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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FutureMrsLeBlanc:  I would tell them ASAP.  I know I appreciated it when people told me right away.  I’d just let them know that unfortunately you’re already booked that weekend, wish you could be there, don’t worry about sending a formal invite.  If you want to send a card and gift that’s up to you.

Post # 18
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913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian

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lambert63:  LOL @I want to tell everyone to spare me the details and just fill it out on their damn RSVP card. SO funny and true.

 

Post # 21
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141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I am sure they would appreciate you letting them know sooner than later. 

Post # 22
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14187 posts
Honey Beekeeper

An STD is not an invitation and no response at all is required. But if you know for sure you can’t make it, and it sounds as if there is nothing that would change that, it would be a courtesy to let her know. I’d send a  gift  closer to the date of the wedding. 

Post # 23
Hostess
8570 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would let them know. They Wil probably still send an invite though!

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