(Closed) STD/Invite questions

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
484 posts
Helper bee

Hi Taranixon,

I didn’t look at a calendar but here are the general guidelines.

STD’s go out 8-9 mos before the wedding and invitations are sent 6-8 weeks before your big day.  Registry information does not go in the STD or invitation (unless that’s the norm in your family/social circle, its generally considered not proper etiquette, but like everything else in wedding planning – do what’s best for you and your situation).

Registry information can be included in your shower invitations. I like to print it on a seperate card since it technically should never be “on” an invitation.

You can register whenever you want but if your family gives engagement gifts you might want to start one when you send out your Save-The-Date Cards. Your guests will either ask you or your parents where your registry is if they are interested in purchasing something from it. Just remember that seasonal items (bedding etc) can often be discontinued by the time your wedding rolls around.

Congrats and best of luck!


Post # 4
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think your timing sounds pretty good.

As for registry info, that’s definitley a hot topic. I’m not sure what the proper etiquette is for including it on STD’s (I would say probably not a good idea) but I know they say you should not include it with your invitations. It can be included with shower invitations. I also know that sometimes it’s a regional issue. Ask about including it with invites and probably 95% of the brides would say not to include it. But I know in my small town/rural area, 9 times out of 10 it is included with the invitation. That being said, I’m not including it with ours even though it’s the norm around here. We have a lot of older guests that may be offended with the thought of us "asking" for gifts. But we did include it in our shower invites because that is were you are "showered" with gifts. And it’ll get around by word of mouth.

Hope this helps!

Post # 5
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

A good way to let your invitees know about where you’re registered is to create a web site. Most sites allow you to link to your registries. On your Save-The-Date Cards or invites, you can put a line about — “for more information, check out our web site @ …..” It’s a great way to provide more detailed information about wedding events, your bridal party and where you’re registered!

Post # 6
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Timing sounds good. I’m letting my guests know where I’m registered on my wedding website, and I included the URL on the Save-The-Date Cards (we’re also listing hotel information, things to do in the area, who the wedding party is, etc.). The registry information will go out again in the shower invites, and the website info will go out again on the directions insert in the wedding invitations (we’re posting maps on the website, too). Generally it’s not good form to include registry information directly in a wedding invitation, but if everyone you know sends it out then, you might as well also.

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