Post # 1
I am planning on sending out Save-The-Date Cards soon, and could use some suggestions for co-workers. Basically, I am planning a weekend wedding in a place that is about a 4 hour drive from where I live. It is a destination wedding for my whole family (I live in California, they live in the midwest and east). Hence, I am sending Save-The-Date Cards with links to our detailed wedding website.
At the same time, I started a new job at a law firm about two months ago. I plan on inviting many of my co-workers (I have another question about that going up). The problem is that some of them I don’t know very well yet. Basically, I worked summer of 2008 at this firm, finished my last year of school, and came back for my permanent job. Some of them I know very well and really, really like, but some of my co-workers are basically new to my life, but will still be invited because 1) I expect to know them better by wedding time and 2) I have the kind of profession where developing good personal relationships is a key to success.
So, I’m wondering if I should send my co-workers Save-The-Date Cards. I’m thinking no, and just spread word of mouth. I will send invites earlier (3 months before) because it is a weekend/destination wedding. Is that acceptable for a crowd that isn’t going as far and has the means to splurge n a weekend getaway if they so desire? I think so, but I want to check and could easily be convinced to send the Save-The-Date Cards to everyone. Thanks!
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Don’t send them Save-The-Date Cards. You can always wait until January or February on this group, or not send them at all. You don’t want to be stuck inviting people that you might not want to invite after all!
Post # 4
I think that’s fine. It kind of covers you too–if something happens (not saying it will, but layoffs, issues at work, etc) you won’t have to explain not inviting anyone. Good luck with planning!
Post # 5
I am kind of in a similar situation. We just moved to a new area (9 hours away from our old place) and are meeting a lot of new people. My fiance has made some good friends here already and they were asking if they were invited. We plan on inviting them but they were not in our original guest list so we didn’t want to tell them yes and have the guest list get out of control. Recently we sent the dates out to family and friends on the original guest list and just mentioned the wedding date in passing. When it gets closer we were going to officially invite our new friends here. And I have a feeling this number could keep growing! Ah!
Post # 6
you could always just post one up at work for all of them to see if you are worried about it. save money on the Save-The-Date Cards and still give them a heads up
Post # 7
I wouldn’t send out Save-The-Date Cards to any of these coworkers especially since you haven’t known them very long. It might seem a little strange that you are sending them things for the wedding when you haven’t had a lot of time to get to know eachother!
Post # 8
If i could back and do things over again i would have never invited coworkers because i only invited my close friends from work now and everyone else at work is asking where their invitation is. Now, you may not have inconsiderate, rude invitation-begging people at you workplace but i can guarantee you if you dont know these people that well then dont invite them because it makes it awkward for the people invited, the people who wish they were invited, and for you.