(Closed) STDs–order more or ignore etiquette?

posted 6 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Order more STDs or send one per address
    Order more STDs : (10 votes)
    18 %
    Just send one per address and get it right with the invitations : (46 votes)
    82 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    739 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    If I still lived at home, I would hate to be referred to as “Mr. & Mrs L. & Family“…. I’m a grown up!! Order more Save-The-Date Cards. you’ll be glad you did in hindsight! 

    Post # 4
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    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would not order more Save-The-Date Cards, just add the name of the adult kids on the envelopes to their parents. I don’t think anyone would be offended, and if they are – well time to move out! 🙂

    Post # 5
    Member
    1328 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’ve always heard that Save-The-Date Cards don’t follow the same rules as invites since are so much less formal.  I no longer live at home and I still get added onto Save-The-Date Cards that go to my parents (some family members think I still live there, or didn’t find my address in time).  I wasn’t offended by it.  The invite would be another story.

    Post # 6
    Member
    503 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    A friend of mine is getting married and sent one STD to my parents house that said “and family”. I don’t even live with my parents, in fact I live 30 minutes away but I was in no way insulted by it.

    Post # 7
    Member
    11 posts
    Newbee

    I feel like Save-The-Date Cards are not as formal as invites and it won’t matter in the end – send 1 STD per household and call it a day!

    Post # 9
    Member
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Pumpkin_Bee:  I think the “and family” is confusing…My Future Mother-In-Law received a STD (and invitation) written that way, and the “kids” (who are all in their late 20’s) didn’t know if they were invited…so no one went.

    Post # 10
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    1846 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @phillybride61513:  And family means everyone in the household. 

    I wouldn’t order more, make the invitations more clear. These are just Save-The-Date Cards

    Post # 12
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    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @FortiesFlare:  Yes, but clearly it was used improperly in the situation I’m referencing, as the only other family living in the household was the dog…

    Post # 14
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    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    …I would never waste an invitation on the same household even if “etiquette” does dictate that, this is why I find so many etiquette things to be so stupid. If 2 of my friends were roommates, I would only send them one invitation, even if they’re not a “couple”. I sent my invitation to my cousin (who was also a BM) living at home just one for her home with her name and her parents on it…and her bf’s on that same invitation too, who could care less about the invitation and would throw it away and not remember the date and was just going to call her to ask when it was anyway, why waste on him? But seriously. Why? Because some old book says so? Nobody was at all offended. At all. *shrug*

    Post # 15
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    911 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

    This same exact thing happened to me. I just sent one per household, but if the children were actual adults, I used their full name on the second line.

    Ex:

    Mr & Mrs. John Smith

    Mr. Michael Smith

    123 Main Street

     

    yadda yadda…you get it. I only used “and famiy” if young children were invited.

     

    Post # 16
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    1606 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Reeniero:  +1

    They can’t be that upset if their full name is on the STD.

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