Post # 1
a friend and I got on the topic of baby names and we got into a conversation about people “stealing” the name you like.
My side: tell people your name you like, if they use it, they use it – we can still use it – I have no actual rights to the name, I just like it. If you choose not to tell, you can’t get mad about it if someone uses it
Her side: keep it a secret, don’t tell anyone, get mad if someone uses the name you wanted to use
My argument: how can you “steal” someones name if a) we aren’t even expecting and b) if you didn’t tell them names you like, how would they know they are “stealing” your name? LOL
Her argument: people will then consider that name if you tell them it because maybe they never thought of it and liked it
I just don’t understand how someone can “steal” the name you like…if they don’t even know the name you like LOL
What do you guys think?
Post # 2
I think your friend is ridiculous. If you pick a popular name, there’s a good chance someone else will pick it too.
Post # 3
I’m with you. She is irrational and immature about it.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm
only idiots think people can steal names. Hell we have multiple of the same name, in the same generation in my family. No one got annoyed. At all. I’ve openly laughed at people when they say that they can’t name their child something cause some else used that name.
If you’re so immature regarding names then you probably aren’t mature enough to have a child!
Post # 6
I don’t want kids but for the longest time, I thought I did. I still have a list of names I had curated that I even still like to this day. They are pretty unique so I was like, “I’m never telling anyone ever!” (One is actually a girl I knew growing up, and even googling her name to this day just brings up her. There is no trace of any one on the planet with this name, no variations, no meanings behind it, no trace of it. I thinnk her mom came up with it, it’s very classy and sounds like it would be popular. So I totally planned on stealing that name! LOL!)
I think I only know of two instances where a name was deliberately stolen.
Post # 7
I think name stealing can be a thing, but I don’t think any of your scenarios cover what that is.
If I’m pregnant and tell people this baby’s name is going to be X, and then someone has their baby before me and names their baby X, knowing full well that’s the name I was going to use, I think that’s stealing. It’s especially annoying if that person gets mad if I use the name as planned anyway.
That’s why I don’t believe in telling people the name. I think a person has the right to be annoyed if someone uses the name without knowing. I’ve had a name picked out forever and a family member just named their dog the same name. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t disappointed. I don’t want my child to share a name with a dog. I wouldn’t say they stole the name though – they didn’t know.
Post # 8
Your friend is nuts. Keep your names to yourself, and if someone uses it, you know it’s because they thought of it on their own.
I’d be legitimately upset if I shared a name I wanted to use, and a close friend or family member got to it first – simply because I’d not use it after that. A friend of mine told her SIL one day the name she’d planned to use, and her SIL got pregnant first and used the name. That was pretty shitty, and only proves my point that you should just keep your names to yourself.
Post # 9
She would be angry if somebody came up with a name on their own and it happened to be the same name she wanted to use? Childish.
Post # 10
I’m dying to hear this name now!
Post # 11
oooooh do tell!!!pleeeeease
Post # 12
LOL it’s funny how you mention dog names – part of our conversation started with how one friend was pregnant, didn’t know the sex of the baby, and then my Future Sister-In-Law got a new dog and named him Bennett – well apparently that was one of the friends top names and made my Future Sister-In-Law change the name of HER dog IN CASE she had a boy and got in a big fight over it… – she ended up having a girl lol .. it was pretty silly!!!
Post # 13
My DH’s family has lots of the same name cycling around and I’ve always wondered if some of the aunts “stole” the names. Was probably an entertaining argument! I think it can be frustrating but mainly because there is no good reason to be angry about it, which is frustrating in and of itself LOL.
Post # 14
Names are names. There are only so many that can be used that people like before they start overlapping. For crying out loud my family is so large there are cousins that have the same name as each other and you didn’t see the siblings fight over who was going to use it for their child first. People are insane.
Post # 15
You can’t steal a name. Period. If someone uses a name you like after you told them about it, so what. You can still use it. People are so ridiculous, honestly.