Stealing from a wedding?

posted 4 months ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 16
1164 posts
Bumble bee

We suspect we had a few go missing during our recent wedding but we weren’t about to call people to ask if they gave anything. We had about six guests who are sticklers for etiquette not even drop in a card — not being greedy, just seems out of character to not give a card. We’re just waiting and hoping someone will reach out if they didn’t receive a thank you note. 

Post # 17
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I don’t think it matters at all if it’s clear. Everyone knows what a card box is, including thieves. Get one with a lock on it for sure, that way if someone wants to steal, they have to take the whole box which is not so incognito. And definitely have someone lock it in their trunk or somewhere like that after cocktail hour. Most people will have dropped off their card by this time. The worst thing to do is to leave it out all night. I do know someone who had all of their cards stolen, it does happen. 

Post # 18
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

We’re using a lobster trap for ours which is 1. Heavy and 2. Pretty conspicuous so it would be damn near impossible for anyone to walk out with it

Post # 19
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

It doesn’t matter whether the box is clear or not – everyone knows what it’s for. You should probably have one for folks who don’t send a gift ahead of time, but maybe designate someone to keep an eye on it. My dad designated his brother as the official card-box-watcher at our reception. Since he works security and is a martial artist, it was in very safe hands! And voila, no issues. 

Post # 20
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

natasha0b :  I would be more worried about inviting people I thought would steal from me.

Post # 21
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Philadelphia, PA

I agree with most posts. Make sure it’s not easy to take cards out. I made a card box for my daughter’s sweet 16 that looked like a tiered cake. It was made out of boxes that I glued together so the only way to open was to rip off the bottom. It’s so sad to think people would do that but oh they do. I intend on getting a locked box and placing it on the bar which is inside our reception room. I also plan on putting my phone/small touchup bag under my sweetheart table. I don’t think your Mother-In-Law meant to scare you but I would strongly listen. People typically give a lot of money at weddings and others know it. I usually write checks when I go to weddings just in case but most people give cash. Just be very aware and careful Bee 🙂 

Post # 22
25 posts
  • Wedding: December 2018

If possible, you should make sure you have a locked room for your exclusive use at the venue, and designate someone to carry the key.  That way you have somewhere to store the contents of your card box as well as bridal party purses and wallets without having to worry about keeping an eye on them while everyone is eating and partying.  For my wedding I had two friends serve as “receptionists” before the ceremony and the reception, to greet people, help them with the polaroid guest book, direct them to the cloak room etc. and keep an eye on the card box.  Right before the ceremony and dinner the box was emptied out, placed in a manila envelope and locked up in the room.  It’s a lot of cash, you can’t be too careful.  

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