(Closed) Stealing from others weddings

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll: Have you stolen ideas from other wedding or had your ideas stolen?
    Yes, I took ideas from friends weddings and I asked permission : (18 votes)
    9 %
    Yes, I took ideas from friends weddings but No I didn't ask permission : (40 votes)
    21 %
    No, I would not take ideas from friends weddings : (20 votes)
    10 %
    Yes, I would be bothered if someone stole ideas from my wedding and used them in their wedding : (32 votes)
    16 %
    No, I wouldn't care if a friend took ideas from my wedding and used it in theirs. : (84 votes)
    43 %
  • Post # 3
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I think it depends on what you are stealing. Our friends ‘stole’ our reading, but honestly there are only like 5 biblical readings to choose from so I didn’t really mind. Another friend ‘stole’ our guest book idea, but they told us in a complimentary way so again I didn’t care.

    I don’t think we stole anything from anyone else.. everything we did wasn’t necessarily ‘original’, but it was all our own ideas. The only thing I copied from a magazine was our cake decor – but the flavor I came up with on my own. And I’ve still NEVER seen another wedding with our color scheme, including color of flowers and Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. We chose our own vows out of the choices our Rev gave us, not from something we had previously heard. and the logistics of the day just fell into place based on how much time we wanted to allow for things.

    Post # 4
    2742 posts
    Sugar bee

    Hmmm…. I am looking for a guestbook idea 😉

    Post # 5
    151 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I agree with moderndaisy that it depends on what you are “stealing.” My husband and I got married first in our group of friends, and many people have already told us what they plan to steal for their own weddings. I take it as a huge compliment!

    Post # 6
    1920 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I wouldn’t care if anyone took ideas from my wedding I see it as a compliment. And I always take note of details at peoples weddings and if I like them I might use them in my wedding. In fact the year of my sisters weddings we had 5 weddings to go to before hers and we actually took notes at every wedding of things we liked/didn’t like. And things she liked we incorporated into her own wedding.

    Post # 7
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

    I don’t know that it’s necessarily stealing unless you are actually reusing something physical. Otherwise every single mass manufactured wedding dress was “stolen”.

    Post # 8
    287 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I have never stolen from a personal friend.  But I have borrowed from other bees!!! =)


    So my Maid/Matron of Honor is getting married 3 weeks after me.  I got engaged 6 months before her and bought the BMs plum dresses before she was engaged.  She loved them.  Then after she got engaged she got really upset at me because she wanted her BMs to wear lavendar dresses but felt that she would be copying me.  I told her not to worry about it, they were very different shades of purple.  I felt bad that SHE felt bad, but technically I got there first. She had never told me that before then. 

    Post # 9
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I “stole” so many ideas from the ‘bee for my sister’s wedding it isn’t even funny…LOL! I thought that was the whole point of this site…to share ideas and get feedback. Now if I had a close friend or relative who wanted to recreate my wedding from the colors to the flowers to the dresses…THAT would be a problem. However, if they saw some specific things that they wanted to incorporate into their day I would be totally fine with it. 

    Post # 10
    827 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I would take it as a compliment!  Plus, I have “borrowed” other bees and other wedding bloggers ideas because I think they’re great!

    Post # 11
    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    There’s no such a thing as a completely original wedding… just having a wedding in itself is unoriginal.  Tongue out

    Post # 12
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I don’t understand how you can “steal” from people’s weddings. If one of my friends asked me if they could steal my venue or my colors or my photobooth I would be super confused.

    Post # 13
    5271 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I don’t consider it “stealing” and who is to say they didn’t hear of the idea previously?

    Plus I would be flattered if someone who attended my wedding thought something was so awesome that they wanted it at their own! 🙂

    Post # 14
    1509 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I also don’t understand how you can “steal” an idea from a friend’s wedding you have already attended.  I think it’s petty to worry about this.

    Post # 15
    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    I think everyone on here is pretty much “borrowing” ideas from other brides, right?! 

    For me personally, I really didn’t borrow/steal many ideas from others.  However, a friend of mine that got married a month before me borrowed the table number lumie ideas.  She asked if it would be okay and I said sure!

    Post # 16
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Yeah, I agree with some of the PPs about whether being inspired by someone’s wedding and doing something similar at your own would be considered “stealing”.

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