Step brother not invited

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

kimsplace :  

I would be hurt and pissed too…why doesn’t your husband tell his son that your son isn’t working and to put and invite in the mail ASAP?

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

mrs2014 :  lol… my thoughts exactly but apparently im ‘wierd’ and people live at home to all kinds of ages now a days because otherwise ‘how are they suppose to save’ undecided

at least that was the general concensus on another forum… frankly ive always managed to save fine (I have the best savings out of all my friends) and have lived away from my parents since 15 lol

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee

Can’t your husband just tell his son that it’s wrong to exclude his stepbrother and he needs to be invited? 

Post # 21
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Helper bee

People are just asking more details to get some perspective. No need for the “smart pants”. 

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

kimsplace :  what disability? thats could also be an important factor you left out (I did assume it a possability but your lack of mentioning anything when asked for more details made me assume I assumed wrong)

I personally believe disabled people should be treat exactly the same and always given informed choice but ive seen from many a thread how people debate and get confused about inviting disabled family members, everything from ‘wanting the carers to have a night off’ to ‘worrying how they will cope with a busy day’ and it can vary – physical disabilities are unfortunatly very hard to incorperate the world is still shockingly undisabled friendly (ive been to dozens of wedding venues and very few have been disabled accessable in the private dining rooms) and mental disabilities often leave people worried about behaviour or understanding

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

btob17 :   Couldn’t agree more 😉

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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Post # 25
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Buzzing bee

kimsplace :  Well he said he only excluded him because he thought he would have a conflict, it seems like there’s no conflict, so I don’t see why you should sit and feel bad about it instead of getting him an invite.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

 

Have you or your husband told your stepson that your son has no conflict and can attend? Does that change his status to invited? Why isn’t your husband sticking up for your son?

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Did your son possibly *tell* the groom that he’d probably have to work? Does he usually work on that day? Just wondering where the groom got that idea in the first place. Some people don’t bother to send invites if they think the person has declined in advance.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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Post # 30
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Sugar Beekeeper

The disturbing implication is that your son is not invited because he has a disability and might distract or “embarrass” this couple in some way. If so, that is not acceptable on any level. I’d consider it a deal breaker for my own attendance and frankly, so should your H.

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