Post # 1
I’m having a dilemma about who will walk me down the aisle. My father passed away when I was younger, but I do have a step-father. He and I don’t really have that father-daughter relationship, even though we get along. I just don’t see him as my Dad – more like a buddy. I’d really like to have my Mom walk me down, but don’t want step-dad to feel left out, or hurt his feelings. Again, it’s not that I don’t like him, he’s actually a great guy. I ‘d just rather give my Mom that honor. People have suggested having both of them walk me, but the aisle is very narrow. It would be difficult for three of us to walk down and not look terribly awkward.
I’m also not doing the father-daughter dance because it would just be weird. We’re not huggy people, so slow dancing would be way beyond uncomfortable.
Thoughts? Maybe I could incorporate him some other way? I’m stumped.
Post # 3
First of all, I really like your name. Makes me think of Polly Pocket!
Second, have you talked to your stepdad about this at all yet? If you explain to him that you’d like to give your mother the honor of walking you down the aisle, I bet he would understand it. As far as other ways to incorporate him, could you have him do a reading or maybe give a speech at the reception?
Post # 4
I think you should jusst have your mom walk you. If you and your stepdad are not that close, im sure he would understand why you would want you mom. If you guys are doing speeches or anything like that maybe you can just thank him for being there for you or even write him a personal note or card thanking him for being in you life.
Post # 5
I don’t see why he’d be offended if you had your mom walk you down.
Post # 6
If your not that close to him then he wont be expecting to walk you down the aisle. If you would rather have your mom do it then let her walk you down the aisle. I’m sure he will understand.
Post # 7
has he or your mother expressed a preference that he walk you down the aisle? if not, maybe you could approach your mother first and explain that it would mean a lot to her if she walked you down the aisle.
Post # 8
@rollercoaster:My Mom actually said she thinks he would be hurt, but she’s also overly dramatic. I have to take what she says with a grain of salt. The reason I’m hesitating to just have to my Mom do it, is because he has been around since I was 12, so, 18 years. I know he thinks of me and my sister as his daughters, but I just really want my Mom to walk me. Ok, I just convinced myself I think 🙂 Thank you for your advice ladies!