(Closed) Step Dad vs Biological Dad

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Just because your dad is blood doesn’t mean he has the “right” to walk you down.  It is an honor that you can bestow on anybody of your choosing. I don’t see a problem having both walk you down.  If you’re dad has an issue he should suck it up.  Your wedding…Your day.  A compromise would be to have your step-dad walk you halfway and your father walk you the rest of the way. That way you can have a moment with each of them. Good luck!

Post # 3
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650 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I wouldn’t have them both, I’d have the step-dad walk me.  That may be a huge insult, but it doesn’t sound like he’d be very excited about it anyways.  A heart to heart with him about this specific issue might be in order to see how he feels.  The rest of the family doesn’t matter, it should be about how your dad and step-dad feel.

Post # 4
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1040 posts
Bumble bee

Well….. I knew someone in that situation and her father flat out said no. So be prepared for that. She ended up walking down the aisle alone. She didnt want to upset 1/2 the family. She did give stepdad a special father/daughter dance though. So that’s an option. You have time to feel out the situation. I hope your dad sucks it up and respects your wishes!

Post # 5
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760 posts
Busy bee

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becomingsumner:  I have a very similar situation. I’ve known both of my step parents since I was three. My dad and I are also not close like you mentioned, but he “wants all of the honor and none of the responsibility” as I put it. My step mom thinks my dad is God’s gift to earth and my mom thinks that my step dad has been there for me more than my dad. I can’t say either are totally true from my perspective. 

I’m having them both walk me down the aisle to start and then midway through my stepdad will pass me off, give me a kiss or hug and my dad will finish the walk and give me away. My dad almost threw a tantrum when I said this was the way it would be, but it’s my wedding and my SD is important to me too.

Post # 6
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522 posts
Busy bee

My cousin was in a similar position to this, she solved it by asking my (and hers) beautiful grandfather to walk her down the isle. 

Honestly it was such a beautiful moment and no one could really be offended because it’s her grandfather. i don’t know your relationship with grandparents but this really solved the problem for her as it went above the issue.

 

if you cant do this maybe just have your mum? Or if you don’t want that, honestly it’s your wedding have your step dad

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