(Closed) Step Families- Who gets Corsages?

posted 8 years ago in Flowers
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would give coursages and bouts to step parents, but not stepgrandparents.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i’d give step-parents corsages/bouts (but give your mom some warning so she’s not blindsided at the wedding when she sees your stepmom with a corsage on). i don’t think step-grandparents need a corsage/bout.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I tend to try to not draw distinctions between step and blood relatives.  I have stepdaughters and I would never do/buy anything for my biological daughter that I wouldn’t do for them.  So, if I were giving corsages to biological grandparents, I would give them to stepgrandparents.

I’m not sure why you think your mom would be offended if your stepmother got a corsage.  No, she is not your mother, but she is your father’s wife.  I fully expect my children’s stepmother to get a corsage when my daughter marries (waaaaay off in the future).  it’s not in any way a slight to me.  It is a courtesy extended to her due to her status as the wife of the father of the bride.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Both my step-parents and my one step-grandparent will get boutennieres (for the men), nosegay bouquets (for the mums) or a corsage (for the grandmother). They have been in my life forever (literally since before I can remember), but I also just think it’s a nice gesture to include everyone – it could really make someone’s day if he/she wasn’t expecting it.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

You could do a different flower for the ‘steps’….our mothers are getting a different corsage than the gmothers/readers…so if you want to single our your mother that might work.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I personally would give them to every parents and gradparent whether step or not. Corsages only usually run a couple of bucks and you could save so much headache and just make people happy.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Is there anyway you could get something much more elaborate for your mother and something small and simple for your stepmother?  That way, it would be obvious which one is your mom and which one is your father’s wife?  Are you giving a bout to your mother’s husband?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would only do corsages for step-parents. The step-grandparents will understand.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

This is what we did- we gave our moms tussy mussies (basically smaller bouquets with matching colors as bridesmaids and me) and then we gave my husbands grandmother a flower pin (sort of like a bout but way more feminine) and we also gave the same flower pin to my dads wife. I have 2 step brothers and did not give them anything and my dads wifes mother (step grandmother) was there as well but we did not give her anything. If you would like to see pictures of the flower pins or the tussy mussies just let me know. I think it was a great way to distinguish them and I think they preferred wearing them over corsages!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I got them for everyone.  Moms, Dads, GFs of Dads, Grandma…I had 6 women and 5 men total.

I didn’t really consider many of those people as “parents”, but I didn’t want anyone to feel slighted.  They were all really excited to be thought of.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Kitty285: The flowers were colors of our wedding. The tussy mussies for the moms were white daisies, green hydrangeas and yellow billy balls. My mom wore a robins egg blue dress and my Mother-In-Law wore a multi color dress. Then my step mom got a yellow/white/green flower pin and it was the same one as my husbands grandmother.

I think it would be fine to coordinate with what they are wearing as well but maybe harder to do since you might not know exactly what that looks like until the day of!

Post # 16
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Newbee

@Kitty285:  I like the response that someone else gave you.  Don’t make a distinction between biological grandparents and step grandparents.  Give them each something small.  They should appreciate it.  I’m with you, though, I think the whole corsage thing is old fashioned.  But if you’re going to give them treat all grandparents the same.  Your mom and step mom should be different.  Speaking as a step mom, I think it’s sweet that you acknowledge the step mom.  But your mom should have an extra special corsage.  2nd to you and your groom, she’s the “BIG CHEESE” of the day! 

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