(Closed) Step-mum dramas!!!

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
404 posts
Helper bee

@BabyBrain:  Is she the kind of person you can just ask? I’d sit her down and say something like “Hey, I really don’t want to exclude you, you’ve been around for so long and you’re a big part of my life. On the other hand, I really don’t want you to feel you have to do anything. Are you stepping back because you want to or because you feel you should?” and go from there.

If she genuinely doesn’t feel the need to be involved and is just happy to watch you get married then just go with that. Aslo, I’d say take her at her word, if she says she’s happy to not be involved then trust her.

Does she have any kids herself?

Post # 5
404 posts
Helper bee

@BabyBrain:  Maybe she really is happy to just be a guest then! I think also, as she has a daughter, she’s probably of the mindset that she can be MOB when her daughter gets married and it’ll be easier to take a backseat during your wedding to avoid conflict.

Yeah, talk to her, it sounds like the best plan. Can you take her for lunch or coffee or something to discuss?

Post # 6
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would think she is being very careful to not overstep the boundaries and to not upset your Mum…maybe if you have a quiet chat and tell her how important she has been to you in growing up etc that may help…but careful to not upset your Mum:)

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