Post # 1
I’m now a SM to 4 kids. I love them a lot!!! I have my Dear Daughter 100% of the time. BD is not in the picture. Darling Husband kids live 3 hours away and we only get them 1 weekend a month and alternating holidays. My question is if we planned a vacation to go visit my family do you think I need to take all the kids? My family is very spread out and we would have to take a plane and I can’t imagine how much 7 tickets would cost plus if the 3 of us go we could stay with family and rent a small car. I know we could schedule it when we don’t have the kids…has anyone been in this situation before?
Please no bashing. We do intend to take vacations with them to other places that we are able to drive to.
Post # 2
Honestly, I think if you planned it for a time when your step children weren’t scheduled to be with you it would be fine. I have a step mother and I’m never bothered when they go on holidays without me (then again, I’m 26 and don’t live at home). I think the fact that you’re visiting your family adds to this – I like my step mother’s family, they’re lovely and have always been so welcoming of us, but I don’t know how comfortable I’d be staying with them. If you were visiting your DH’s family, I think it would be different and would probably say to take the step kids along.
Post # 3
bridetobeonjune3 : seems like a great time to do it, and maybe just plan a family vacation and tell them about it before you tell them about this trip, so they know they’re being included in family things.
No reason for your daughter and you and your dh not to see her grandparents. Enjoy your trip!
Post # 4
Visiting your family without them would be fine. Going to Disney World without them would not be.
Post # 5
bridetobeonjune3 : I think it’s fine to visit your family without them. When I was growing up my Mom didn’t always bring my brother to visit my Step-Dads family, and vice verse with my Step-Dad and Step-sister (I lived exclusively with my dad so I went wherever they went). There were never any hard feelings by my brother or step-sister and If I didn’t live exclusively with my Mom I wouldn’t have been upset if they didn’t bring me. If it’s just to visit family there is nothing wrong with it.
Post # 6
Thank you so much everyone!