(Closed) Step parents ever feel you are trying to one up the birth parent?

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
3624 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I totally get where you’re coming from. DH’s ex is a big pain in the butt. She’s refuses to accept that I’m part of their lives. She gets pissed off when she hears that I was home alone with the kids (If Darling Husband has to work). She says things like “She is NOT their mother. She should NOT be allowed to discipline them. She will NEVER be a part of their family. The boys do NOT love her. I tell them not to love her.”

She’s incredibly toxic. However, my goal is not to one up her. It’s not about her. my goal is to make sure those kids know I care about them. No, I’m not their mother but if they need help or want to talk that I AM there for them if they choose to come to me.

It’s such a frustrating situation to be in, and I truly envy step moms and moms who have a civilized relationship.

Post # 4
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

I don’t think what you’re doing is wrong. It’s one thing to be one-upping an active, involved, loving, caring biological mom who makes sure her kids’ needs are met. It’s kind of hard not to make a piece of shit look like a piece of shit.

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