Post # 1
I’ve searched and searched but can’t find anyone in the same situation. Both my parents are remarried (and have been for a LONG time), but my mom didn’t change her last name to my step-dad’s (so she still has my last name, which is also my bio-father’s last name), and my step-mom didn’t change her last name to my dad’s. So, would the invitation read:
Dr. John Doe (step-dad) and Mrs. Jane Smith (mom)
Mr. Jeff Smith (dad) and Mrs. Sarah Jones (step-mom)
Request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Ashley Elizabeth Smith (do I include my last name to clarify who my parents are?)
to Benjamin Paul Brown
Son of Mr. & Mrs. David Brown (or should I also list his mother’s name, since she would be the only parent out of 6 not to be listed?)
Thank goodness his parents aren’t divorced too! Anyway, my mom and step-dad are paying for almost all of the wedding, but my dad and step-mom are still helping out a little, and my dad would definitely be hurt if he wasn’t listed. But my mom might feel weird if my step-mom is on there (they really don’t get along). Since it’s a pretty expensive wedding, I feel obligated to list the parents’ names, as opposed to something like “together with their parents”. Help! Would it be too crazy long to list all 4 of my parents and their different last names?
Post # 3
In this sitution i would just say together with thier familes/parents!
Post # 4
@Jen51287: agree this is really the only option:)
Post # 5
We were in the same situation. My wedding invitation read like this:
MS. JANE SMITH & MR. JOHN DOE
MR. JEFF SMITH & MS. SARAH JONES
REQUEST THE HONOUR OF YOUR PRESENCE
AT THE MARRIAGE OF THEIR DAUGHTER
Ashley Elizabeth Smith
Benjamin Paul Brown
MR. & MRS.DAVID AND CHERYL BROWN
ON SATURDAY, THE SEVENTH OF JULY
TWO THOUSAND TWELVE
AT ONE O’CLOCK IN THE AFTERNOON
FIRST BAPTIST CHURCH
10321 12 AVENUE
It made everyone happy because everyone was on it.
Post # 6
@red_pepper_gal: I think that is perfect!
OP, I don’t see why your mother can object to the step-mom being on there. Stepmom is a co-host, and it would look really weird to mention your dad without her.
Post # 7
We just said our names together with their families. I think that it gets to cluttered otherwise.
Post # 8
thank you for your advice everyone! redpepper, i think i’ll go with that. do you use ms. or mrs. for the mother and step-mother?
Post # 9
@shleyshley33: Where the surname is different, you should use Ms. (Because technically “Mrs. Smith” means the wife of Mr. Smith). But why not double-check with each of them?
Post # 10
@shleyshley33: I had something similar, and I went for the easy, together withour families…
Post # 11
My parents have been divorced since I was 2 (thankfully they get along!) my mom has been remarried and my dad is currently engaged. FI’s parents are still married.
I worded ours, without the parenthese obviously:
Together with their parents
Mr.Doe & Mrs. Deer (dad and fiance)
Mrs & Mrs. Wolf (mom and stepdad)
Mr. & Mrs. Beagle (Fi’s parents)
Candie & MrCandie
request your presence…………
I didn’t include our last names because I figured anyone who came to the wedding should already know who we are or could tell from our parents names.
Post # 12
You could certainly go “together with our families” if you wanted to, although I see no reason not to list them.
My parents are divorced and my dad/stepmom paid for most of my wedding, the rest was funded by Darling Husband and myself. Our invite read “Mr. and Mrs. My dad/stepmom”, my mom was not listed as she didn’t pay (aside from that, we’re not that close). I didn’t list DH”s parents as they weren’t contributing and I prefered the traditional wording.
Post # 13
Etiquette Snob here…
Lol, I had to look this one up to make sure I got it right…
As per the Post Institute of Etiquette and the Book *Weddings*…
When both the Bride & Groom’s Parents have been divorced and have remarried, but all are participating in giving the Wedding and Hosting the Reception, it is not unusual for all their names to appear on the Invitation. In this instance, the Bride’s Mother and her Husband would appear first, the Bride’s Father and his Wife second, the Groom’s Mother and her Husband third, and the Groom’s Father and his Wife fourth:
Mr. and Mrs. Michael Hannigan
Mr. and Mrs. Lawrence Anvik
Doctor and Mrs. Russell Healy
Mr. and Mrs. Jeffrey Jacobs
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of
Lindsay Catherine Anvik
Andrew Lloyd Jacobs
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Hope this helps,
PS.. Lol, good old Emily Post, she seems to have info for every possible scenario, if you have more Questions just ask… if I don’t know it personally, I can look it up for you.