(Closed) step-parents on invitation but all 4 parents have different last names!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

In this sitution i would just say together with thier familes/parents!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@Jen51287:  agree this is really the only option:)

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We were in the same situation. My wedding invitation read like this:

MS. JANE SMITH & MR. JOHN DOE
AND
MR. JEFF SMITH & MS. SARAH JONES
REQUEST THE HONOUR OF YOUR PRESENCE
AT THE MARRIAGE OF THEIR DAUGHTER
Ashley Elizabeth Smith
TO
Benjamin Paul Brown
SON OF
MR. & MRS.DAVID AND CHERYL BROWN
ON SATURDAY, THE SEVENTH OF JULY
TWO THOUSAND TWELVE
AT ONE O’CLOCK IN THE AFTERNOON
FIRST BAPTIST CHURCH
10321 12 AVENUE

It made everyone happy because everyone was on it. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@red_pepper_gal:  I think that is perfect!

OP, I don’t see why your mother can object to the step-mom being on there. Stepmom is a co-host, and it would look really weird to mention your dad without her.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We just said our names together with their families. I think that it gets to cluttered otherwise.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@shleyshley33:  Where the surname is different, you should use Ms. (Because technically “Mrs. Smith” means the wife of Mr. Smith). But why not double-check with each of them?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@shleyshley33:  I had something similar, and I went for the easy, together withour families…

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My parents have been divorced since I was 2 (thankfully they get along!) my mom has been remarried and my dad is currently engaged. FI’s parents are still married.

I worded ours, without the parenthese obviously:

Together with their parents

Mr.Doe & Mrs. Deer (dad and fiance)

Mrs & Mrs. Wolf (mom and stepdad)

Mr. & Mrs. Beagle (Fi’s parents)

Candie & MrCandie

request your presence…………

 

I didn’t include our last names because I figured anyone who came to the wedding should already know who we are or could tell from our parents names.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

You could certainly go “together with our families” if you wanted to, although I see no reason not to list them.

 

My parents are divorced and my dad/stepmom paid for most of my wedding, the rest was funded by Darling Husband and myself. Our invite read “Mr. and Mrs. My dad/stepmom”, my mom was not listed as she didn’t pay (aside from that, we’re not that close). I didn’t list DH”s parents as they weren’t contributing and I prefered the traditional wording.  

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here…

Lol, I had to look this one up to make sure I got it right…

As per the Post Institute of Etiquette and the Book *Weddings*…

QUOTE:

When both the Bride & Groom’s Parents have been divorced and have remarried, but all are participating in giving the Wedding and Hosting the Reception, it is not unusual for all their names to appear on the Invitation.  In this instance, the Bride’s Mother and her Husband would appear first, the Bride’s Father and his Wife second, the Groom’s Mother and her Husband third, and the Groom’s Father and his Wife fourth:

Mr. and Mrs. Michael Hannigan

Mr. and Mrs. Lawrence Anvik

Doctor and Mrs. Russell Healy

Mr. and Mrs. Jeffrey Jacobs

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of

Lindsay Catherine Anvik

to

Andrew Lloyd Jacobs

etc.

— — —

Hope this helps,

PS.. Lol, good old Emily Post, she seems to have info for every possible scenario, if you have more Questions just ask… if I don’t know it personally, I can look it up for you.

 

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