(Closed) Stepfather walking me down the aisle – how to answer “Who gives this woman?”

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Maybe he could respond, “She gives herself freely with the love and support of her family.”  Or perhaps the “Who gives this woman…” could just be left out altogether?

Post # 4
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My dad simply said ‘I do’ when asked this in the ceremony 

Post # 5
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I would have my stepdad walk me down, and then have your parents – Mom and Dad stand up when they asked who gives her away and they can all (stepdad, mom, dad) say “we do”

Post # 6
1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Agreed with calypso. Is there any reason (religious or otherwise?) that phrase has to even be said? We’re not saying it at my wedding, I’m writing the ceremony myself and while sitting with the officiant going over things ceremonies normally include she asked me if I wanted that/how I wanted it worded and I said it sounds a bit stiff and formal for us but it’s up to my dad if he wants to get to say that, we’ll put it in. And he practically just laughed at the thought of anybody giving me to away, period, lol.

Post # 8
8291 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My step dad said “Her mother & I.”

Post # 9
4858 posts
Honey bee

I thought whoever it is just says, “I do”.  I don’t think he has to announce his title or relationship to you!

Post # 10
33 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

My dad is a minister so he will be walking me down the aisle and also doing the ceremony. We cut that out altogether!  It’s your day, you should be able to do most anything you want as long as it’s respectful of your church/religion and I don’t think that sentence has anything to do with it.

OR, stepdad could answer “Her parents and I” that way everyone is included!!


PS Kudos to you for honoring your stepdad as the man you felt raised you. I’m sure he feels so proud!

Post # 11
30402 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have been to several weddings where the parents were divorced and remarried. They all stood up and said ” we do” at the appropriate time.

Post # 12
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would suggest that your stepdad simply say, “Her mother, father, and I.”

Post # 13
2126 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

My dad said, “She gives herself, with the love and support of her family.”

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