Post # 1
Tonight I finally told me dad that my stepdad will be walking me down the aisle at my wedding. My parents divorced when I was very young and I grew up with a very close relationship my stepdad and rarely see my dad and my stepmom. Going back to highschool, I knew that I wanted my stepdad to walk me down the aisle at my wedding. I was dreading telling my dad about this decision, but finally did it tonight over the phone. He took it well enough, changed the subject, and then a little bit later asked what would be said during the “Who gives this woman…” question. I honestly hadn’t thought about this aspect of the ceremony yet. Does anyone have any suggestions that could be an appropriate response for my stepdad to give? Is there someway that we could phrase the question so that it would apply to both sets of my parents and also my FI’s family? Any suggestions greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
Maybe he could respond, “She gives herself freely with the love and support of her family.” Or perhaps the “Who gives this woman…” could just be left out altogether?
Post # 4
My dad simply said ‘I do’ when asked this in the ceremony
Post # 5
I would have my stepdad walk me down, and then have your parents – Mom and Dad stand up when they asked who gives her away and they can all (stepdad, mom, dad) say “we do”
Post # 6
Agreed with calypso. Is there any reason (religious or otherwise?) that phrase has to even be said? We’re not saying it at my wedding, I’m writing the ceremony myself and while sitting with the officiant going over things ceremonies normally include she asked me if I wanted that/how I wanted it worded and I said it sounds a bit stiff and formal for us but it’s up to my dad if he wants to get to say that, we’ll put it in. And he practically just laughed at the thought of anybody giving me to away, period, lol.
Post # 7
Thanks for these suggestions! I guess we will have to talk to the officiant about if it is required to include. We’re getting married in a church and haven’t talked much about the ceremony, so I’m not sure how flexible he is with what all is included.
Post # 8
My step dad said “Her mother & I.”
Post # 9
I thought whoever it is just says, “I do”. I don’t think he has to announce his title or relationship to you!
Post # 10
My dad is a minister so he will be walking me down the aisle and also doing the ceremony. We cut that out altogether! It’s your day, you should be able to do most anything you want as long as it’s respectful of your church/religion and I don’t think that sentence has anything to do with it.
OR, stepdad could answer “Her parents and I” that way everyone is included!!
PS Kudos to you for honoring your stepdad as the man you felt raised you. I’m sure he feels so proud!
Post # 11
I have been to several weddings where the parents were divorced and remarried. They all stood up and said ” we do” at the appropriate time.
Post # 12
I would suggest that your stepdad simply say, “Her mother, father, and I.”
Post # 13
My dad said, “She gives herself, with the love and support of her family.”