Post # 1
My dad remarried a wonderful lady in 2004 (I was 18), after dating for three years. We have a great relationship, she’s contributing financially to the wedding, and some of her friends and family will be in attendance. I’d like to include her on the program.
Should I list
father of the bride
mother of the bride
stepmother of the bride
grandmother of the bride
father of the groom
mother of the groom
FH’s dad has also remarried, but his dad’s wife is weird and they don’t have a relationship…she’s not a stepmom, she’s his dad’s wife, you know? Is it weird to list my stepmom on the program but not his dad’s wife? Should I leave both of them off altogether? FH’s dad/wife are not contributing financially to the wedding, if it matters.
Paging @This Time Round! What do you think??
Post # 3
Hi! I had my stepmom listed in the program as well. I would absolutely NOT list one and not the other – that can cause some major problems. Personally, this is how I would list it:
Mother of the Bride
Father of the Bride
Stepmother of the Bride
Grandmother of the Bride
Mother of the Groom
Father of the Groom
Stepmother of the Groom
That way everyone is included, the step moms are listed with their respective husbands, and it won’t cause any issues! I personally don’t think it matters if they are contributing to the wedding at all. For me, it’s a matter of respect. FWIW, my stepdad didn’t attend my wedding (he’s also more like ‘my mom’s husband’ instead of a stepdad) but if he did attend, he would have been listed in the program as well.
Post # 4
If you want to list your stepmom, by all means list her and put her name next to your dad’s…but please don’t leave off your FI’s stepmom no matter what the nature of the relationship because it will only cause hurt feelings and problems- esp. if she is going to be there.
Post # 5
K, you guys are confirming my gut feeling…we’ll put her on there.
(this lady is cray-cray…she got super drunk at a family dinner a couple of years ago and started yelling at all of us about how if we don’t vote for american idol we probably don’t vote for the american president either and it’s going to be our fault if people start carrying around nuclear weapons in their suitcases. then she told us that we have nothing in common because we didn’t serve in the military and that we’d never see each other again. no one ever mentioned that night again, lol)
Post # 6
Wow, she sounds like a peach! :-/ Unfortunately, not listing her would only make matters worse! Good luck with her!
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I agree with other posters on this one. It’s all or nothing and you have to include your stepmom so even though his stepmom is Cray-Cray she goes on there too. I also agree that it should go Mother of Bride first then Father of the Bride.
Nobody will think anything about you including his stepmom on the program, they will just assume that you and your FH are respectful adults (and probably talk about how crazy his stepmom is behind her back….don’t you love family?)
Post # 8
I would go the safe route and just put “together with their families” that covers everyone so no one can be offended or hurt, and prevents your invites having a huge list of names.