(Closed) Stepmoms/dad's wife on the program

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Hi! I had my stepmom listed in the program as well. I would absolutely NOT list one and not the other – that can cause some major problems. Personally, this is how I would list it:

Mother of the Bride

Father of the Bride

Stepmother of the Bride

Grandmother of the Bride

Mother of the Groom

Father of the Groom

Stepmother of the Groom

That way everyone is included, the step moms are listed with their respective husbands, and it won’t cause any issues! I personally don’t think it matters if they are contributing to the wedding at all. For me, it’s a matter of respect. FWIW, my stepdad didn’t attend my wedding (he’s also more like ‘my mom’s husband’ instead of a stepdad) but if he did attend, he would have been listed in the program as well.

Post # 4
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1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you want to list your stepmom, by all means list her and put her name next to your dad’s…but please don’t leave off your FI’s stepmom no matter what the nature of the relationship because it will only cause hurt feelings and problems- esp. if she is going to be there.

Post # 6
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691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wow, she sounds like a peach! :-/ Unfortunately, not listing her would only make matters worse! Good luck with her!

Post # 7
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9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I agree with other posters on this one.  It’s all or nothing and you have to include your stepmom so even though his stepmom is Cray-Cray she goes on there too.  I also agree that it should go Mother of Bride first then Father of the Bride.

Nobody will think anything about you including his stepmom on the program, they will just assume that you and your FH are respectful adults (and probably talk about how crazy his stepmom is behind her back….don’t you love family?)

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would go the safe route and just put “together with their families” that covers everyone so no one can be offended or hurt, and prevents your invites having a huge list of names.

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